Kalu Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom...
LovelyDaze Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom... Call a suicide hotline immediately if you are still on this board. Please believe me..NO ONE on earth is worth you dying for. Think of this, if you died , then you will 100% never ever have a chance to meet anyone. As long as you keep moving and hold on day by day, you have a chance! You could meet the one for you tomorrow, next week, perhaps next year. But you have to hang around to find out. And you never know. The man you will marry and be with forever may be right under your nose. He could be just a good platonic friend, a guy you used to go to high school with, or you always pass by him shopping at your favorite grocery store. I've met most of my boyfriends under odd circumstances where I was just minding my own business and not looking for anyone at all. Stop looking. Get yourself up and be strong. You attract what you give out. If you are carrying your grief on your shoulders, people can sense it. Write down all of your exes and their personalities, quirks, habits and the reason why or how he or you broke up the relationship. Spot a pattern and then destroy it! Changing the way you date is the first step in improving your chances to find the right one.
GrayClouds Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom... Kalu I am so sorry you are feeling so low. I suspect you are a person who can really connect with someone when you feel a closeness, and that is a gift. It also can be a real challenge, to feel so deeply it make the high so high and the low very hard. If I am right about that then your one of the lucky ones because you have the oppertunity to have one of those realtionship that they write novels about. But to get there it is going to be a bumpy ride. You have to work past this break up and find your strength. Finding love for you will be easy finding the strength is the challenge. But you can do it , love yourself like you would love a lover, do for you as you would do for them, see how kind you can be to yourself. As you do it will get easier. Hang in there.
Weird Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Call a suicide hotline immediately if you are still on this board. Please believe me..NO ONE on earth is worth you dying for. Think of this, if you died , then you will 100% never ever have a chance to meet anyone. As long as you keep moving and hold on day by day, you have a chance! You could meet the one for you tomorrow, next week, perhaps next year. But you have to hang around to find out. I agree with the first part as nobody is worth dying over. The second part though...what does it matter when someone is dead? Not like this is virtual reality and they will die and be saying "oh shucks, I didn't meet anyone"...they're dead thus ceasing to exist. To the OP, The only advice I can really give is that you spent all those years of your life without a significant other and managed so if you realize that then you can probably do it for the time being. I'll say a prayer for you and that the best possible person can come into your life and you can be as happy as any person can be. Like GrayClouds, you sound like one of the few people who can be totally devoted and truly appreciate the gift of a relationship/someone to share your life and love with and whoever you end up with will be lucky. The world would be better if there were more people like you in that area.
Meaplus3 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom... First of all NO guy is worth taking your life over... please get that in your head right away. You are greiving right now and this is normal.. and it will pass. If you are having a real hard time, my suggestion to you is to seek some sort of counseling. By talking through your feeling's, it can do you a world of good. You are going to be ok. Please have some faith in yourself. and keep posting and venting. We are here to listen and help. I have felt way.. way down just like you.. and I pulled myself back up.. stood on my feet and learned to walk again.. it can be done.. and I have faith in You. Chin.. up kiddo! Mea:)
angelaM Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 The best thing you can do at the moment is figure out what you can do that will make you feel better right now, before you meet anyone else. Think back to things you enjoyed as a kid, even silly things, and do those. Find a new hobby or take a class for fun. Try to get back in touch with the person you were before this relationship. She's still there; waiting for you. It is wonderful to be in a relationship, but the time in between has its own gifts. No compromises now; do only what you want, eat only what you want to eat, watch videos he would have hated. Listen to your heart. This time may not be what you want, but it is still important. And the more you do now, while you're healing, to build up your interests and sense of independence, the better prepared you will be for your next relationship. What you're going through now, learning to be happy alone (even if it isn't what you really want) can be a challenge, but it is also an opportunity. Think of being single as a holiday in a strange place. Are you going to sit in your hotel, waiting for someone to rescue you, or are you going to get out and explore? Maybe life seems dull without someone to share it with because you haven't built up an interesting life for yourself yet. Spend some time doing that now; it will serve you very well for the rest of your life. Plus, as an added bonus, if you've got your own life going on, you won't get into a relationship with the wrong man just because it's better than being alone. Good luck to you on your new, solo adventure!
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Your life means something!!! Right now you feel lost and confused and hurt and in pain, but i promise you it will get better!!! You just got to take one step at a time, numb the pain.
NancyDee_Online Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Life is special in itself! You don't need a man / girlfriend to fill any void. If you're happy with yourself, other people will WANT to be happy with YOU! You cannot be unhappy an expect someone to come and love your "boring / lonely self"... Now that you're single, go have fun and meet new people, and hang out with friends. And pursue your goals! Don't let this situation hold you back from being happy and becoming "loveable" by someone else... Things ALWAYS happen for a reason, maybe that's the happiest he could make you, or maybe he was a douchebag, or maybe his priorities shifted, etc. Whatever the case may be, people get back together... If you were "meant to be" he will come back. But he won't come back to a boring, depressed girl. Live your life to the fullest! Guys are supposed to be disposeable - he served his life! That's how I see it... On to the next!
LovelyDaze Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 I hope you will respond on your thread to let us know how you are. Remember, throughout all of our lives, we will have some great days and terrible days. This may feel like your darkest hour but you WILL get through the pain. Believe it.
Odyssey Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 (edited) To feel you have to put all your responsibility for your happiness in someone else’s hand is a scary thought. Someone once said, "you can not be lonely if you like the person you're alone with". If you don’t like yourself, you are doomed never to like being alone. And you will drag your gloom into any future relationship. So learn to like yourself. I don't mean that you should become an egotistical ass, but just that you should feel good about yourself. Follow your conscience and you will be proud of yourself and happy to be in your own company. Stop beating yourself up...you deserve to be happy, so be pro-active about it and your confidence will soon come back. But most important of all, don't get with someone just to keep from being alone! ...and being single isn't exactly the end of the world. We all have our ups and downs... Edited March 25, 2010 by Odyssey
supersub Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom... Your life is totally worth it. I promise. Its just that fear and confusion has poisoned your mind. Fear is just an illusion. Feel better!
Author Kalu Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 Thank you so so so much for all of your responses, they made me very happy I'm having a better time, or at least trying! I'm aware I have a problem...I can't depend so much in love, I don't know...I'll try to focus on other things, like studying, working, my friends, my family, reading, my body, mind, etc, and try not to focus on finding that significant other just yet... I'm a very loving person, and I will find a person that will like that and love me with all of his heart...and I will make him VERY happy, I just know it.. But I see I'm not ready yet, am I? Thank you all so much!! I will stop trying to find love and let love find me (with a little help teehee :3) I promise you all, when that day comes...I will post here to give all of you hope in life, love and destiny... Again, thank you so much!!!!! You deserve the best of the best in life, and I'm pretty sure you will all be happy, I'm pretty sure, yes . Good karma to all of you!!!!!
skydiveaddict Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I don't know what to do with myself, I don't like being alone... It's not that I miss my ex, it's just that I miss having someone there thinking about me, loving me, caring about me...and a friend just doesn't fill all the void... Life doesn't have anything special if you don't have someone to share your feelings and all that, it's just so boring and dull.. I's SO afraid of never meeting someone special, of never getting married and of dying alone...I just wanna die right now so I don't suffer anymore!! I'm aware I need professional help, I just need some words of wisdom... You will meet someone special! DONT give up!
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