Want to end cheating? Here is how..

[calizaggy]

From what I understand, women are not willing to let "boys be boys".. They liken cheating to one of the worst things that can happen, and it is very destructive to families, them, and in turn children and society..However, I have not read a practical solution.

 

From a male point of view, women are becoming more forward, easier, and sexually liberated.. My fellow men and myself might enter a marriage and have every intention of being faithful, but as we all know a marriage has ups and downs, coupled with more temptation than ever..A man can truly love his wife, but after many years of sex with the same woman it can become stale.

 

We can say "men should just not cheat" but this is not quite that practical, as men really do have an urge to spread their seed as that is whom we biologically are. We can also no longer escape constant temptation.. Sluts at the office trying to bed you, sluts at the bars trying to bed marry men, pop ups on your computer directing you where to go to find sluts, etc etc.. Even all male clubs must allow women..

 

 

So you want to end cheating? Here is my solution.. 20 public lashings for any woman who sleeps with a married man without written consent from his wife.. I am also willing to extend this law to punish men who sleep with married women.

 

What will this do? End or greatly diminish cheating, keep families together, allow men to go about their day without constant temptation from sluts, and give both men and women piece of mind..

 

I find my solution to be a good one.. I also find it odd that women fight for sexual liberation, tempt and sleep with married men, then solely blame men.. Let's attack both sides of this issue together to stamp out cheating. .

[sweetjasmine]

Conversely, you can move to Saudi Arabia where this sort of thing happens. I'm sure no one ever, ever cheats there.

[USMCHokie]

Adultery is still a punishable crime in the Uniform Code of Military Justice.

[ADF]

You know what I've noticed? The men who are most militant in their belief that men are non-monogamous are the one who go the most crazy when their wives or GFs cheat on them. What most "players" really want is total fidelity for women and non-monogamy for themselves. Ha. Good luck with that.

[sweetjasmine]

You know what I've noticed? The men who are most militant in their belief that men are non-monogamous are the one who go the most crazy when their wives or GFs cheat on them. What most "players" really want is total fidelity for women and non-monogamy for themselves. Ha. Good luck with that.

 

Of course. It's pretty obvious that's what they want.

 

That's why they'll say women should guard their sexuality if they don't want to be treated like sluts. Meanwhile, "boys will be boys" and they'll bang anything with a pulse, and if she doesn't spread her legs easily for YOU, then she's a frigid b!tch. That's why we get lame, absurd rationalizations like "men are genetically constructed to bang anything with a pulse" and "it's natural for a man to sleep with any female he sees if his wife isn't there servicing his needs 24 hours a day."

 

How some people manage to sustain that kind of cognitive dissonance is beyond me.

[Hazyhead]

What a very practical solution! Ooh, in which countries do you get your hand chopped off if you are caught stealing? Maybe there's a similar punishment there too!

[Els]

Geez, even in olden Hebrew they stone both the man AND the woman for extramarital affairs/sex...

[calizaggy]

Well, do you want to end cheating, or not? Is it really that bad, or not?

 

I realize cheating is not good, but for every cheating man there is a woman cheating with him.. Why does she get away scot free, where as the man is the sole "bad guy"? At least if a man sleeps with another man's wife he is at the risk of getting his ass kicked/murdered..Women just lie and say "Oh, I thought he was single"

 

Or do women have too much fun tempting and sleeping with married men that life would not be the same if they could not do such things?

[sweetjasmine]

Well, do you want to end cheating, or not?

 

Do you realize that allowing the state to beat women won't end cheating, or don't you?

 

Why does she get away scot free,

 

[calizaggy]

Do you realize that allowing the state to beat women won't end cheating, or don't you?

 

 

 

 

 

Why, women just cannot resist being homewreckers? If 50 million American men cheat, there are 50 million women cheating with them..

[OWoman]

If 50 million American men cheat, there are 50 million women cheating with them..

 

... or a million very tired American women, each with 50 men

[xxoo]

I realize cheating is not good, but for every cheating man there is a woman cheating with him.. Why does she get away scot free, where as the man is the sole "bad guy"? At least if a man sleeps with another man's wife he is at the risk of getting his ass kicked/murdered..Women just lie and say "Oh, I thought he was single"

 

 

cali, do you have concept of degrees of wrongness? Or is everything "right" or "wrong" in your eyes?

 

Of course the OW has done something wrong. But her "crime" is less than the crime of the wayward spouse--the one who actually promised fidelity, and is enjoying the benefits of a monogamous spouse under false pretenses (and vice versa when the genders are reversed). He is the one putting his partner unknowingly at risk. His is the greater crime. From the point of view of the betrayed spouse, HE is the only one who matters.

 

And speaking of degrees of wrongness--while our society believes cheating to be "wrong", we believe public lashings to be "wronger". Is that really difficult for you to understand?

[threebyfate]

This doesn't go far enough. Cheaters should be laid out on a stone slab and chopped to a million pieces, then all the pieces should be incinerated, so there's no chance of DNA retrieval for the purposes of cloning.

 

After several millenium of this kind of action, the gene pool will hopefully be cleansed of the allele 334 gene.

 

And no, I'm not being serious.

[John Who]

From what I understand, women are not willing to let "boys be boys".. They liken cheating to one of the worst things that can happen, and it is very destructive to families, them, and in turn children and society..However, I have not read a practical solution.

 

From a male point of view, women are becoming more forward, easier, and sexually liberated.. My fellow men and myself might enter a marriage and have every intention of being faithful, but as we all know a marriage has ups and downs, coupled with more temptation than ever..A man can truly love his wife, but after many years of sex with the same woman it can become stale.

 

We can say "men should just not cheat" but this is not quite that practical, as men really do have an urge to spread their seed as that is whom we biologically are. We can also no longer escape constant temptation.. Sluts at the office trying to bed you, sluts at the bars trying to bed marry men, pop ups on your computer directing you where to go to find sluts, etc etc.. Even all male clubs must allow women..

 

 

So you want to end cheating? Here is my solution.. 20 public lashings for any woman who sleeps with a married man without written consent from his wife.. I am also willing to extend this law to punish men who sleep with married women.

 

What will this do? End or greatly diminish cheating, keep families together, allow men to go about their day without constant temptation from sluts, and give both men and women piece of mind..

 

I find my solution to be a good one.. I also find it odd that women fight for sexual liberation, tempt and sleep with married men, then solely blame men.. Let's attack both sides of this issue together to stamp out cheating. .

 

 

Man I can relate to the sluts in the office trying to bed you part!

 

When I was M all the women in the off knew I was M,did they care nope!

 

Talk about throwing themselves at me,even openly saying I don't care if you're M.

 

Not just single women hitting on me but MW as well,the biggest slut of the office was a MW.

[calizaggy]

cali, do you have concept of degrees of wrongness? Or is everything "right" or "wrong" in your eyes?

 

Of course the OW has done something wrong. But her "crime" is less than the crime of the wayward spouse--the one who actually promised fidelity, and is enjoying the benefits of a monogamous spouse under false pretenses (and vice versa when the genders are reversed). He is the one putting his partner unknowingly at risk. His is the greater crime. From the point of view of the betrayed spouse, HE is the only one who matters.

 

And speaking of degrees of wrongness--while our society believes cheating to be "wrong", we believe public lashings to be "wronger". Is that really difficult for you to understand?

 

 

Actually I feel families breaking up is WORSE than someone undergoing physical pain..

 

Think of how FREE men and women would be if they were not consumed with sex and temptation constantly?

 

Yes, on the surface we can just say "men should not cheat, it is wrong"..But why not work together to get rid of the temptation? If someone is on a diet do you bring them cake? Do you throw a keg party for someone trying to beat alcohol?

 

Men are not perfect, and men have STRONG BIOLOGICAL URGES that I feel women do not fully understand. It is not an excuse it is reality..Men being monagomous is nothing more than a social contruct. You throw sex at him constantly and sooner or later he will stray.

 

Why should society promote "sluttiness" (one half of the equation), then come down hard on men for being men?

[xxoo]

Think of how FREE men and women would be if they were not consumed with sex and temptation constantly?

 

The temptation will still be there. The risks will just be higher. Thats what I was talking about in the other thread: risks vs benefits.

 

I suppose women in the US could wear full burqas

[threebyfate]

Actually I feel families breaking up is WORSE than someone undergoing physical pain..

 

Think of how FREE men and women would be if they were not consumed with sex and temptation constantly?

 

Yes, on the surface we can just say "men should not cheat, it is wrong"..But why not work together to get rid of the temptation? If someone is on a diet do you bring them cake? Do you throw a keg party for someone trying to beat alcohol?

 

Men are not perfect, and men have STRONG BIOLOGICAL URGES that I feel women do not fully understand. It is not an excuse it is reality..Men being monagomous is nothing more than a social contruct. You throw sex at him constantly and sooner or later he will stray.

 

Why should society promote "sluttiness" (one half of the equation), then come down hard on men for being men?

Oh, oh, now here it comes, the "I want a mommy" syndrome.

[calizaggy]

John raises a good point...

 

Why, WHY, WHY, do women try to break up marriages and throw themselves at taken men? Men do not do this..

 

What is it with you women that wants to drop your panties on the floor as soon as you find out a man is taken?

 

I remember being out with my newly married friend.. He was telling me ab out his marriage, how great it is, etc etc.. Very attractive female butts in,(35ish) and introduces herself.. She started putting down marriage, and then says "You know, I would really like a good sex partner, but do not trust single guys as they might have a disease as they sleep around so much" he said he was very happily married etc, until she became more and more explicit..

 

Long story short, my friend caved and slept with her that night..He felt guilty, but he did it.. He had no intention until this slut was all over him simply because she heard him say he was in a happy marriage..

[xxoo]

Actually I feel families breaking up is WORSE than someone undergoing physical pain..

 

If you feel that way, then you will never cheat if/when you marry and have children. That's the bottom line. If you feel that strongly, you won't risk causing that pain.

[Chrome Barracuda]

the 20 lashes is too much!

 

people are gonna cheat reguardless!

[sweetjasmine]

he did it

 

Why do men unzip their pants so easily?

[xxoo]

I remember being out with my newly married friend.. He was telling me ab out his marriage, how great it is, etc etc.. Very attractive female butts in,(35ish) and introduces herself.. She started putting down marriage, and then says "You know, I would really like a good sex partner, but do not trust single guys as they might have a disease as they sleep around so much" he said he was very happily married etc, until she became more and more explicit..

 

Long story short, my friend caved and slept with her that night..He felt guilty, but he did it.. He had no intention until this slut was all over him simply because she heard him say he was in a happy marriage..

 

Do want to know the secret? Know where the line is and GET THE HECK OUT OF THERE as soon as it goes over the line. For instance, at the FIRST inappropriately explicit comment. The line is usually crossed long before the "caved".

[Tony]

The purpose of this forum is not to recommend punishment for people who behave in any particular manner. Civil and criminal laws have already done that. Thank you so much for your kind participation.