aroll32 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 What do you think? You do have a lot more time to spend on yourself. And you are basically able to whatever you want without anyone (SO) giving an opinion or nagging about it. But, while single, the only way to maintain a consistent sex life (like one you can have with SO) is to sleep with different girls. And that's where STDs come in. Yikes. So does it mean you're free? Free from the emotional drama and rough patched in a relationship? When one of my friends got out of a dreaded, prolonged relationship, I can specifically recall him saying: "I'm free! Thank god!"
New Again Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 When one of my friends got out of a dreaded, prolonged relationship, I can specifically recall him saying: "I'm free! Thank god!" That speaks more about that specific relationship than it does to relationships in general.
Author aroll32 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Posted March 23, 2010 Yes, I know. But I was just giving an example, making a reference if you will.
New Again Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Most people who are in relationships like your friend's will feel single = freedom. Most people who are in happy, healthy relationships (or have been in the past) will probably feel differently. It just depends on your own personal lens...
Jersey Shortie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 There is a freedom that comes from being single. And there is a different sort of knowledge that comes from doing what it takes to be part of a happy relationship. It depends what your priorities are in life. What you desire, your expectations. I personally believe we are all better for the relationships we develop and maintain. More so then we are for all the nights we get to go out without answering to anyone. I suspect most people feel the same. You really learn about yourself and what you are capable of from other people.
GoodOnPaper Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 When I was single, my lack of success in attracting women dominated my thoughts. I could never figure out what was so great about "freedom" -- marriage and family has a way of changing that viewpoint.
torranceshipman Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Life isn't as extreme as you're making it out to be. Firstly you don't need to have random ONS's, and you can use protection every time you do, so you won't get STDs. But I do agree there are great things about being single - freedom being one of them. But then there are downsides too, and the same can be said about being in a couple. There are big upsides but there can be downsides as well. The key is to enjoy the single life when you have it, then to enjoy being with a partner when you find the right one. Both great, but different.
harmfulsweetz Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Single life isn't necessarily better than being in a relationship. It's just different. Just as being in a relationship isn't necessarily better than being single. Each has their benefits/disadvantages. I like the freedom of being single, being in a relationship purely to have sex is a silly reason to be honest, and I'd rather be celibate and on my own and happy, than be having loads of sex with someone and unhappy. Single does equal being free, but it's like others say if you have been in a healthy, happy relationship your perception of free will be somewhat different to someone who felt trapped etc. Personally, I love being single. It's to do with the freedom aspect, being able to just be me, and enjoy that feels good. I don't have anywhere specifically I need to be at, anyone I need to answer to, I can have slob days and it feels different. When I was in my LTR, I felt like I always had to be somewhere, all of my alone time was taken from me, etc. Now I have heaps of time to myself and I'm loving it.
SaintDragon Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I'm starting to be content with being single again and not longing for a relationship anymore. At times I get envy seeing couples together having fun, but then I realize a lot of times it's not always that fun.. I'm not good on being nagged on about stupid ****, so that is another good nail into being single. I can literally do what I want anytime I want and that is a big deal. Plus when funds get tight it's not as heart breaking. I think the only downsides of being single is sometimes it can get deathly lonely and that is hard.I experienced the ugly truth about that and was not fun. Another is having a child...I want one bad, but I couldn't do it myself....and I refuse the whole child support crap and visiting rights..ect ect. Another bad thing about being single for a guy is that of you're 35 and single people think you're weird or gay... I hate that..I'd rather be single as a woman than a man...I can tell you that.
Zeegagge Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 In my recently found singleness I have definitely had more time to pursue one of my favorite hobbies, girlwatching. Difficult to do when in a relationship but I've been to the beach five days in a row now and don't plan on stopping anytime soon. The report is: It's good. I'm thinking of going pro.
Mr White Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Those in relationships probably sometimes wish that they were single and carefree, those who are single wish they were in relationships. The conclusion: no matter what you do you're gona regret it . I don't personally feel that a relationship affects my freedom, but that's probably a combination of seeing each other 2-4 times a week and a flexible work schedule. I still have plenty of time to do whatever I want, plus we do together many of the things that I'd do anyway. The part that I'll miss the most whenever I move in with a woman, is just the ability to vegetate on the couch all day long in my bathrobe. THat's a rare privilege that I plan to nejoy for as long as possible
USMCHokie Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I've been single for most of my life and I feel like I've wasted so much of it not really living life...I felt like I missed out on the true "college experience," and even being in my mid-20's, I don't feel like I've been taking advantage of where I am in life right now... So now it's time to get my butt into gear and be single and awesome. Like Barney Stinson.
zebracolors Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I guess I also can say I am now single myself. At least its all I can surmise from my recent situation, but thats another topic. I have to say its a little scary but also I've been able to take comfort in the accepting of it. I do kind of see it as a freedom actually. I don't have to have that small little guilt trip I put on myself every time when I would sneak a look at some other guy I found attractive. Now I can look all I want and not feel bad.
Pfiend101 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Stay single and you'll have diamonds in your ears as big as potatoes.
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