mississippi Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Hi everyone! I am new. I broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We were having a giant fight and I didn't like how he was treating me (saying mean things). All I could think of was how this was not how I wanted to be treated by someone who loves me. Unfortunately, I miss him like crazy and want him back. He refuses to talk to me and I made an idiot of myself over txt messages tonight trying to get him to at least talk to me. Any advice? Either on how to move on or how to accept the fact that I broke up with him? ...or maybe get him back? Let me know if that's silly! Give me hope I will make it through whether we get back together or not!
skydiveaddict Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Hi everyone! I am new. I broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We were having a giant fight and I didn't like how he was treating me (saying mean things). All I could think of was how this was not how I wanted to be treated by someone who loves me. Unfortunately, I miss him like crazy and want him back. He refuses to talk to me and I made an idiot of myself over txt messages tonight trying to get him to at least talk to me. Any advice? Either on how to move on or how to accept the fact that I broke up with him? ...or maybe get him back? Let me know if that's silly! Give me hope I will make it through whether we get back together or not! It sounds to me like just that; a fight, not a break up. You tried your best to contact him, now it's his turn to contact you. Either way you will make it through. Keep hanging here, people will give you solid advice. good luck to ya
sigurpol Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Kinda hard to say.. I don't know much of the background, or what the fight was actually about. But, if he was saying lousy things to you, then that's not really all that acceptable. Then again, I don't know what he said, etc. If you still want a talk from him, to mow things over, or to fix things.. well, then try to talk to him. If he isn't responding or whatever, maybe see if he's cooling off from the fight. People tend to do that sometimes, just don't bug him too much. You're really the only person who can give yourself "hope" or to move on.. anything else I would say would just be "information" for you. But! Life happens, you'll weather the storm. Like I said, if you want to fix things, let the dust settle. Then get back in touch, see if he wants to talk. Until then, hang in there.
vrchards Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Hi everyone! I am new. I broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We were having a giant fight and I didn't like how he was treating me (saying mean things). All I could think of was how this was not how I wanted to be treated by someone who loves me. Unfortunately, I miss him like crazy and want him back. He refuses to talk to me and I made an idiot of myself over txt messages tonight trying to get him to at least talk to me. Any advice? Either on how to move on or how to accept the fact that I broke up with him? ...or maybe get him back? Let me know if that's silly! Give me hope I will make it through whether we get back together or not! first you have to decide Whether IT is Breakup or Fight? See, It is not easy to leave someone simply saying that we have broken up our relations. feelings are kept both the side. and The most important thing is that when we breakup or fight with love one, it hurts more and make us miss the partner more because we don't care the things we get easily, but we start care the things when we missed the things. We only can give advise but you have to judge the Situation.Just ask from your self some question. 1. Does he really care for? 2. does he respects you? 3.does he really missing you? 4.when you were with him does he care for your fealings? See, it is not important that to whom you love. more Important is that Who loves you?
Author mississippi Posted March 23, 2010 Author Posted March 23, 2010 Well, he finally contacted me on his own accord. He said how he is sorry I feel we ended on a bad note, I am his best friend, this hurts terribly, but he doesn't want to talk to me because he feels he will be pressured into being with me again and he's not sure he's ready for that. Part of me is thinking he may have been wanting this for a while. He never gave me any signs, but nothing else really adds up for me. However, it started out as a small fight and escalated to to the point where I felt he was really picking on me. Perhaps he wanted to push me into breaking up with him so he didn't have to do the dirty work? I didn't respond to him and don't plan on doing so today. It's great that he's sorry I am hurt about how it ended but I would much rather hear he was sorry about how he treated me. Is that too picky? Any thoughts on what he means by "he doesn't want to talk to me because he feels he will be pressured into being with me again and he's not sure he's ready for that." --------------------------------------------------- 1. Yes, I think he really cares and loves me. 2. After the last fight, I don't think he respects me as much as he use to. He made that evident in his behavior. 3. Does he miss me? I think he does. 4. When we are together does he care about my feelings? Absolutely.
MizzBella Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 If you want him back, your best bet is to just leave him alone and maybe he will miss you enough to contact you.
hoping2heal Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 OP, anytime a man tells you he doesn't want to feel pressured into being with you is more or less a big, fat, flashing sign that he doesn't want to be with you. While us womenfolk tend to add complexity and complication to every little thing for dramatic flair men are really quite simple. Either they like something or they don't, either they want it or they don't. I think it sounds like there is a good chance he cares for you as a person - but he just wants you around without having the relationship title attatched to it. That could be for all kinds of reasons. Maybe he thinks you are a great friend and genuinely likes your company - but he doesn't like it in the context of a relationship. Or it could be something else that is really hard to say. However, the issue of being with you seems pretty clear.
Author mississippi Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 However, the issue of being with you seems pretty clear. I was worried and half way expecting someone to say this from the way he's been treating me since our fight. We had been together over 4 years! I have been having a horrible month, grandma dying, some stuff with school and work... this just blows. Wish he wanted more.
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