pandagirl Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Spent four days with the boyfriend. It was so great to see him after almost six weeks. We just seamlessly picked up where we left off -- the ease, comfort... the bad jokes -- it was all still there! haha. I met his family, who I guess really loved me! haha. His teen stepbrother couldn't believe I was 31 (as if you get uncool when you hit 30) and my boyfriend thinks he was an older woman crush on me. lol. We've only been together three months, so this is still so new, but I am slowly learning my boyfriend is a good person. He hasn't done anything to think otherwise, but I see the way he is with his family, and how he treats me in front of them, and it's really wonderful. But, he will be away for a year at this job. When I think of it month to month, it seems manageable, but looking at it as another 12 months apart is overwhelming and, more than anything, scary to me. All the uncertainties are frightening to me. Do other people feel this way? Maybe it's because our relationship is still so fresh that I feel uncertain. It's such a Catch-22: I need more time with him to feel on stable ground, but I can't get it with the distance.
Away Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 My situation is very similar to yours. My boyfriend and I were barely friends before we started dating, so I didn't really know him. We started dating 4 months before he left and we really hit it off... I met his family and got along well with them.. everything was great. Except for the uncertainties that came every time i Thought about the distance that would soon be between us. Now that he has been away for 4 months I'm scared that being long distance we aren't really learning knew things about each other and our relationship isn't growing and evolving like a normal relationship would. That maybe everything was great for those first four months, in part because we both knew that was all we would have before he left and would be away for at least 2 years.. So, as far as I'm concerned what you're feeling is perfectly normal... you are not alone! Sorry I don't have any words of wisdom for you... I just wanted to let you know you're not the only one who feels this way.
D-Lish Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 That's good news PG. Sounds like you are doing everything right:cool: Sounds like he is a guy that is worthy of the sacrifices you are both making. A year fly's by!
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