kim1possible99 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I know he gets on this site sometimes. I dont know how to start this off. Ive been with him for almost 3 years this fall. broke up last may due to cheating not sexually emotional with he suppose friend which is a lie. and we got back together in august forgave him for it. so im tired of telling and asking him lets go get married. he says we will soon. to me thats all bs, he has been previous married. im tired of waiting i tell him there is no perfect time to get married honestly why not really. i dont think he ready to make that commentant . what should i do????
norajane Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Have you considered breaking up with him and moving on? When a guy cheats on you, lies about it, and has zero interest in actually marrying you, there really isn't much point in holding on. What are you holding onto so desperately?
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Sounds like unhappiness a-plenty all around.
CarrieT Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Have you considered breaking up with him and moving on? When a guy cheats on you, lies about it, and has zero interest in actually marrying you, there really isn't much point in holding on. What are you holding onto so desperately? That was going to be my question -- why do you want to marry someone who does not want to marry you? What is the purpose of trying to tie yourself to someone who is so reluctant to establish a commitment?
DaisyLeigh Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Please, stop ignoring the writing on the wall. He doesn't want to commit to you. He doesn't want to marry you. He cheated on you! What more do you need to prove that he is "just not that into you"? Move on. Find a man who IS interested in commitment. They are still out there.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Every poster has nailed it so far. What do you do? Try your best to accept what it is that you can and can't control. You can control you; you can't control him. There's nothing you can do or say to make the man commit to you. In my opinion, you should spend some time alone and think about what you want and if it's resonanle to expect getting what you want from him. Based on what little you've shared, it's likely unreasonable. As a man going through a divorce, i can certainly understand a person's apprehension to tie the knot again; certainly if you're not 100% confident. Good luck to you.
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