Wifecrazy Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Women want to know if they should wait on a guy for marriage or not. Many if not most men, if not "forced" will choose to wait for the right "time". Male time is not when it feels right or comfortable. It is marked by milestones, often of ability to care for or maintain a family. I know many women who after waiting years, were crushed because the guy married some other girl only 6 months later. Why? He graduated from school, got a "good" job, got a raise, got a promotion.... milestones. Other milestones? Bought a house, qualified to buy a house, paid off a loan, got out of debt, fixed his credit. Most men don't even realize this, fewer women. Think about it, ask around, you'll see.
ADF Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Many men--maybe most men--if not "forced" would not marry at all. There was a time when getting married was a man's ticket to full personhood as an adult. If he wanted to live with a woman, have a sex life, enjoy the respect of his family, community, and even employer, he had to have a wife. None of this is true anymore. There is nothing a man might want--love, sex, companionship--that he needs marriage to obtain. Nothing. The incentive for men to marry is basically gone. Instead, many men now associate marriage with the end of youth, the death of freedom, and they fear financial ruin in the case of divorce. More and more men are weighing the pros and cons of marriages and saying, "no thanks."
carhill Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 The easiest way to not marry a woman is to want to marry a woman. No challenge, no drama. They run, save for the sociopaths and gold-diggers. Remain elusive and you will never lack potentials. Someone oughta put that in a dating book
Spark1111 Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 The easiest way to not marry a woman is to want to marry a woman. No challenge, no drama. They run, save for the sociopaths and gold-diggers. Remain elusive and you will never lack potentials. Someone oughta put that in a dating book Hahahaha! Works for women too. Never wanted to marry, had more than a fair share of offers.....Wonder why that was? Ahhh, we always want most what we cannot have....
MizzBella Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Ah yes...it is always the men that I don't want who want to marry me. And those I want are not interested....so Spark is definitely on to something!
Mr White Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Yep, it's all about milestones. Considering that in the past a marriage was an indication (and in same cases - a precondition) for success, men jumped in much more readily. How, not so much- it can easily ruin your life, so why not focus on more reliable things such as career, etc. first... Marriage used to be the institution that charged men, now it is the one that drains them of their last drop of manly energy :laugh:
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