mortensorchid Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Recently I read in a how to manual (whose name I will not mention here) that one of the best ways to get out and date someone of quality is to ask your friends / family to arrange a meeting or introduction with someone. I have found in the past that this is a VERY effective way to not just meet but really have a relationship with someone. I'm kind of embarrassed, but how do I approach this subject with friends and family? Flat out ask them "Do you have any friends, family, etc. that you want to introduce me to"? It's kind of embarrassing, you feel like you can't just go out and meet someone on your own. But then again, after all the failures I have had I am not opposed to it. The worst that can happen someone will fix you up with a loser or someone who you could care less about ever seeing again. Nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say. How does one do it? Ask others to be on the lookout for you?
ashleigh422 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I'd say something, while in conversation like... You know I'm still single, so if you know anyone.. let me know!! Have fun with it and don't be too serious about it..
New Again Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I've done this before, but it was more like I just hung out with my friends more, hand-selected one of their single friends I was interested in getting to know better, and took it from there. Making sure it was cool first... If you aren't comfortable making a move like that you can be sneaky, and pick out from FB, hanging out, conversation and so on a friend that you might be interested in, and just comment to your friend that you think he's cute or something and see if s/he picks up on the hint and offers to introduce you. Or, you could just casually mention or joke with your friends about it... I like the direct approach, but there are all kinds of ways to do it for any comfort level.
D-Lish Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 That's never worked for me. My friends always try and set me up. They know someone that is single, know I am single and try and hook us up. I've never been attracted to anyone my friends have "chosen" for me. I know it's in good faith- but my friends aren't discerning about who they try and fix me up with.
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I don't like being set up by friends...I always feel like the girl will be disappointed when she sees me...and then it just gets awkward after that...
homersheineken Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I don't like being set up by friends...I always feel like the girl will be disappointed when she sees me...and then it just gets awkward after that... With that attitude, you're kind of guaranteeing it
Wallace1 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 That's never worked for me. My friends always try and set me up. They know someone that is single, know I am single and try and hook us up. I've never been attracted to anyone my friends have "chosen" for me. I know it's in good faith- but my friends aren't discerning about who they try and fix me up with. This. My parents are also remarkably terrible at recommending dates for me.
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I don't like being set up by friends...I always feel like the girl will be disappointed when she sees me...and then it just gets awkward after that... Too bad you don't like Asian women, I was going to set you up with me! :lmao:
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Too bad you don't like Asian women, I was going to set you up with me! :lmao: False. I would certainly date Asian women. It's just that I'd never dated one or had an Asian friend. Not because I didn't want to...I blame the local demographics...
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 False. I would certainly date Asian women. It's just that I'd never dated one or had an Asian friend. Not because I didn't want to...I blame the local demographics... So what are you saying? Are you making the 4 hour trip?
terra Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 False. I would certainly date Asian women. It's just that I'd never dated one or had an Asian friend. Not because I didn't want to...I blame the local demographics... oh la la, is that yes?!?
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 oh la la, is that yes?!? HAHA Terra...he is stumped! damn hokie! don't make me take the 4 hour train ride myself! :lmao:
USMCHokie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 So what are you saying? Are you making the 4 hour trip? Ummm...I'm driving to Boston on Friday... oh la la, is that yes?!? It could be...
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Ummm...I'm driving to Boston on Friday... Ok, I get it! like I said, too bad you would not go out with Asian women ! Anyway, so much for the T/J. OP, just tell your friends and family "hey, do you know any good guys? intro me, I can't seem to do this right all by myself"- CASUALLY. No big deal. No harassing them, just putting it out there!
Author mortensorchid Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Good Lord, what have I done?!?!
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