ConfusedinVirginia Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I am confused by my boyfriend's behavior. We have known each other for 9 years, but have only been dating/living with each other for 8 months. We had a disagreement about his ignoring me at a party this weekend. He hasn't really spoken to me since. This is really akward since we live together. He has been hurt before by his ex-wife and another girlfriend that he dated before me. Is this his way of ending things by ignoring me? I know he isn't cheating on me, so that isn't the problem. I do love him, he has said he cares deeply for and it is growing into love, but he wants to go slow. What do I do? I am becoming majorly depressed and don't want to screw things up further.
Aedra Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I think you kinda answered your own question. Maybe he feels you are being too pushy, and is afraid the relationship will end badly like his previous ones. I really think he values your friendship as well as your love, and doesn't want to rush into things because you are special to him. I think just give him a little space for a bit.
make me believe Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Everyone has been hurt in the past. That has nothing to do with the immature way he is choosing to handle this conflict. You need to sit him down and tell him that giving you the silent treatment is childish & unacceptable. Completely shutting down and ignoring you because of what seems like a minor disagreement is ridiculous. Is he going to do this everytime he gets mad at you? And something unrelated that jumped out at me in your post - if he wants to go slowly and isn't in love with you yet, why are you two already living together???
Recommended Posts