DenverBachelor Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I have seen a lot of negativity on the front page as of late. It looks like some new faces have arrived within the first couple stages of suffering a major loss. I can't stress this enough to all the newbies to the board, but you need to do the following: a) Go NC completely. No facebook, no e-mail, no texts, no phone calls, no flowers, nothing. The sooner you do this, the faster this crazy ride will get behind you. b) Keep yourself occupied. I know it is easier said than done, but now more than ever you need to get out with your friends, stay out late, talk to people and just give your mind some competition from all the ex thoughts that are preoccupying your mind. c) Don't beat yourself up over the loss. Sooner or later, you'll figure out that this was a good thing and that you're going to be stronger from it. If they left you, that means they're a quitter and they'll leave over and over. Thank god you got out of that relationship and the sooner you heal, the sooner you can get out there and find someone who sticks love out. d) If you are a hot, recently single female, think about visiting Denver. That is all.
Rearden Metal Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Denver rules. I lived out in western CO for a year, shoulda moved to Denver when I had my divorce but instead came home (Boston). Newbies, do what DB says. He's 100% right.
Thebob Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I agree 99%, if they left you, it doesn't really make them quitters, they just felt that it wasn't the right situation or something happened during the relationship that built up. Such as long distance can be so hard, you woulda been perfect for each other if you were near each other, but if distance made the problem worse then it was sometimes the only option since some people cannot handle it. But move on, go out, have one night stands, get phone numbers and talk to new people. The more you don't think about your ex, the more likely they will see that your moved on and will try and contact you again when you least expect it. Thebob
annxxdisaster Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I have seen a lot of negativity on the front page as of late. It looks like some new faces have arrived within the first couple stages of suffering a major loss. I can't stress this enough to all the newbies to the board, but you need to do the following: a) Go NC completely. No facebook, no e-mail, no texts, no phone calls, no flowers, nothing. The sooner you do this, the faster this crazy ride will get behind you. b) Keep yourself occupied. I know it is easier said than done, but now more than ever you need to get out with your friends, stay out late, talk to people and just give your mind some competition from all the ex thoughts that are preoccupying your mind. c) Don't beat yourself up over the loss. Sooner or later, you'll figure out that this was a good thing and that you're going to be stronger from it. If they left you, that means they're a quitter and they'll leave over and over. Thank god you got out of that relationship and the sooner you heal, the sooner you can get out there and find someone who sticks love out. d) If you are a hot, recently single female, think about visiting Denver. That is all. I'm thinking about going to Colorado for Grad School, I could use a tour guide for the city.
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