sweetjasmine Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Is there any other kind? Yeah. Polyurethane, lambskin, and probably other kinds.
mrt336 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Is there any other kind? Haha yes, there are. There are polyisoprene condoms which are very very good, lambskin which I have no experience with and they sound weird to me, but eh.. But I agree Tami-chan. Basically it's a skin irritation that can have complications and it's really, truly not a big deal. It says nothing about ones sexual past or promiscuity and it shouldn't be a deal breaker. Lets be fair though, it usually does involve pretty significant psychological damage or hurt. One of my ex-girlfriends found out she had it while we were together, told me she felt "ruined" because of it and broke up with me a few months later because she couldn't adjust, her confidence was damaged, she obviously didn't feel sexy, we stopped being intimate physically at all because she didn't want to put me at risk. It was just a bad deal all around. Coping with the "idea" of having herpes seems to be the hardest part.
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Is there any other kind? LOL...there shouldn't be but yes, there are- and thank god for that, as some people are allergic to latex! You have the polyurethane, sheepskin/lambskin and oh, let's not forget the edible, flavored condoms!
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 If the problem is "partner with herpes", then the solution is "valtrex". This really is an open-and-shut case. It doesn't even matter the distinction between genital/oral/zoster herpes. Valtrex is a miracle drug. Actually, that above is what you said..you totally discounted any other forms of protection by saying " Valtrex IS the solution ....open and shut case"...when in fact, even if the patient is taking Valtrex ,a latex condom is still highly recommended. BTW, if you have read the OP, you would have known already that the infected partner is already on a suppressive regimen-presumably, Valtrex or Famvir...
tami-chan Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I understand what you are saying but what I and the mrt336 are saying is you are being irresponsible by saying that all an infected person has to do is take Valtrex and he/she will not be able to pass the virus to his/her partner. Why is it irresponsible? because the while in theory, Valtrex should have that 99.08% effectiveness, the body has in different times processes the chemicals of the medication in different rates and "ways". The effectiveness of the medication is dependent upon how well it was processed and absorbed and at what rate. I am pretty sure you realize that our bodies sometimes do not work at it's optimum efficiency level, for that alone, latex condom should be part of the prevention of the spread of herpes. One must not take the chance unless they have to...as in trying to have a baby, for example!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I'm just asking because yesterday i was hanging out with the girl i've been dating for about a week now and we're getting along great and things are moving smoothly, haven't had sex yet, just kissing and other stuff. Well yesterday she dropped the bomb on me by saying that she had genital herpes. At first i was just shocked, and she was scared to tell me because she likes me and thought I was just gonna run for the hills. But I didn't wanna stop seeing her because of that, it's not like she asked for it. A guy went down on her that had it two years ago and spread it to her. she hasn't broken out since the first time which was a year ago. and she's taking meds. would you guys stay with a girl that has it? That is barely the question. The more sensible question is: "would you be better off staying with a woman honest enough to tell you that she has genital herpes, or would you be better off back out in the dating pool with so many others lurking about who have herpes and never disclose that fact?" Finally, since about 80% of everyone has oral herpes, it makes the most sense to expect that just about everyone performing oral sex on you HAS herpes. Of course I would stay with her...
Xochitl Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I actually went to the doctor's two years ago to find out if i had herpes. Basically he told me that there is no point in even testing for it (they can test for antibodies) because most people get it as children from playing etc. (This is usually the type that you have on your mouth, which is what your gf will have got through oral sex, since it spreads that way too). Afterwards I studied this in nursery too, which confirmed what the doctor told me. Depending on the country, about 90% of people have it and a large percentage have it on the genitals as well as mouth and these days it's often the same type because people have so much unprotected oral sex.(Not everybody has symptoms but it can spread from asymptomatic carriers as well so that's no real help). So good luck guys and girls finding anyone to date who doesn't have it... And generally, why do people have this obsession of dating only people (esp.guys) who are perfect in every way??? Because nobody really is anyway.
ADF Posted March 27, 2010 Posted March 27, 2010 I dated a woman with genital herpes for more than three years and never got it. Preventing herpes transmission is fairly easy. No need to dump somebody just because they have it.
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