shadowplay Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 (edited) Spookie, honestly you can do better. I know you don't feel it right now but you will eventually. You don't love him, so you're not really losing out. This relationship has its perks but it's essentially empty and you know it. What you miss is the deep connection you had with your ex (minus the pain and negativity). It doesn't have anything to do with this dude. Being with him just reminds you of what's missing. Edited March 23, 2010 by shadowplay
mammax3 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Thanks for this thread, Spookie. I hope that you've decided and realized that whatever is going on in his head is *his* issue, not yours. You can make a choice to learn from this experience, develop yourself in a way that leads you to like yourself even more and move on into healthier relationships. Not to tj, but your thread helped me see my own fwb situation and I told him that I'm not happy with the current arrangement. Like your guy, he wasn't able to give emotionally and seemed -erm- spooked by too much closeness (although we were exclusive too). Good luck! Onward we go.
sumdude Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 its not nice to use the qualities you have accepted about someone against them, but i will just keep reminding myself that he is self-absorbed, immature, a cheater, an alcoholic, a homophobe, and has repeated the same stories about his poop dollar frat boy days to me ad infinum already. at least twice per weekend. someone, please tell me i dodged a bullet. Ahh, well now that you put this info out I retract my previous post. You can do better.
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