chloe1408 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 but i do. right now in this moment all these questions are going round in my head and if i dont get them out i will explode, so i know, with the best intentions at heart, some of you are going to tell me that it doesnt matter, i know tht, i honestly do, and it breaks my heart to admit that what he does isnt my business, but understand that if i dont communicate it, i will go mental! he left me for another girl 3 months ago. We were together a year and a bit. they got together two days after we split. we were so in love and it just went. he is happy with her. he has made my life hell since the split and been nothing but nasty and i know its sad but i just want him to feel some pain. i want him to miss me like i missed him i was so good to him why has he escaped scratch free? is the grass greener?
LovelyDaze Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 why has he escaped scratch free? is the grass greener? There are SO many stories like yours. Mine was one as well as many here on LS. YOU are just presently hurting right now while your ex is "happy." I wrote a thread about how we dumpees always seem to subconsciously assume that are ex has found the one...AFTER they've dumped us. Didn't he have an ex before you? Even if he didn't, did you have an ex you were once happy with? I had several exes that I was SURE was "the one." And then I met the next guy. Sure he thinks the grass is greener right now. But he or the new GF can easily think the same way about each other and seek someone new. You get used to anybody. People go through relationship after relationship over and over again. Don't assume his new love is the last stop at love. Probably not. But even if they beat the odds and be together until they are 100, you have your beautiful self forever and need to take good care of that girl. Let him be in that other relationship. You will only fan their romantic fire by intervening, calling him, asking for closure, sending texts, etc. Just disappear. You win either way. If he never ever calls you again, then it leaves you open to find a great guy PLUS your ex will never think of you as the "psycho ex" If he does call (as so many do), then he will see you as strong, confident and definitely not needy of him at all. Exes can sniff out when we have moved on it seems! So keep working on being a great and better you. Mourn with only your close family and friends. DON'T call him out on Facebook or MySpace. That is juvenile. Disappear from his life period. NC is the best way to eliminating any more pain your ex can dish out.
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