moving on

[littlebookofsorrow]

me and my husband seperated almost 2yrs ago now,this was because i caught him out seeing another girl who he claims to have been "a friend" i wont go into details but this was 1 lie too many,we had been married 12 years, we have a son and now he (my ex) has a girlfiend, as far as i'm concerned she is more than welcome to him and his lies, i just feel i am never going to find love again, my son always has and always will come 1st, i just don't know how to feel, i wish things could be different, i would rather have nothing more to do with him but when kids are involved you don't have that luxury,any advice welcome

Edited March 22, 2010 by littlebookofsorrow
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[GrayClouds]

It is very difficult, with the combination of the length of the relationship and when children is involved.

 

While been separated for two years, it sound like you left your self in no man land for that time. Not really moving on, and not really rebuilding.

 

I the goodness is now you know it is time to let go, no more time waited on hoping. You can now spend your time focused on the child and figuring out what you want from life for yourself. For the first place to find love gain, is through understanding what it takes to love yourself.

 

So what things do you need to do to get there?

[bubbles5]

m sorry for whatever happened but why u r making it complicated? Its far more difficult to restart life after losing 12yr relationship but christ sake if ur husband hardly cares for what ur son thinks of his new gf then why not u go n date ppl.For god sakeu have a life n u have to live it.Its difficult u may think its no point but ask urself how r u going to spend ur other few yrs of life just by getting depress ? No u have to move on.N dont make a child as an excuse for making things more complicated.Your child wil respect u for wat u r once u explain him things.Go live ur life, try to rebuild it.

[littlebookofsorrow]

i don't think you quite understand, im not making life difficult for myself, it just is, i don't have a family to call upon to babysit a the drop of a hat. its not easy to find reliable trust worthy people to watch your child i wouldn't just leave him with someone i didn't know!or i would be out and getting myself a life. oh and did i mention i work full time as well. im not wollowing in self pity or getting depressed about the situation, just finding it difficult due to my work life balance and bringing a child up by myself.am not using my child as an excuse either,as explain earlier. we don't all come from familys that are there when something goes wrong and give you the support you need. you're so harsh to judge the situation without knowing all the facts. wish i never ask!