Sweetie1977 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Its the mans job to be the hunter pursuer but these days i hear guys complaining about approaching women,if they do appoaoch they usually give their numbers instead of aksing for mine and hunting me Why is this? Why arent Men Men anymore?
AD1980 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Im not attractive to women no reason for me to waste my time and pursue im just a nuisance when i approach.. Women want the 5 to 10% of Men who are actually attractive to women to approach not us undesriables..
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 it is hard to find women worthy of the pursuit, however
St. Nick Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 it is hard to find women worthy of the pursuit, however Ain't this 100% true!
sullysteve Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I think many men feel guilty about approaching and pursuing women. It's a tough climate these days; men may think they're objectifying women by trying to pick them up, or may worry about being slapped with an accusation of harassment. Neither of these reasons is necessarily valid, but I think the fear is still there in many people's minds.
AD1980 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 it is hard to find women worthy of the pursuit, however Some women cant undertsand that..Some women whos a nag and a 4 in the looks department in a bar is wondering why the one hot guy in a bar every women is drooling over cant undertsand why hes not approaching her sweeping her off her feet.. Meanwhile the average Joe who approached and is tryign to pursue and be somehwhat chilvarious is a creep to her or invisible..
LovelyDaze Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I think that a lot of men, especially the "nice guys" have given up on pursuing because in the end, a lot of women will get bored and seek out a "bad boy" instead. The bad boys are a challenge, dramatic, roller-coaster riding, dangerous and dramatic. And that's the problem.....
St. Nick Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Some women cant undertsand that..Some women whos a nag and a 4 in the looks department in a bar is wondering why the one hot guy in a bar every women is drooling over cant undertsand why hes not approaching her sweeping her off her feet.. Meanwhile the average Joe who approached and is tryign to pursue and be somehwhat chilvarious is a creep to her or invisible.. This is 100% true too!
Woggle Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Men are just as confused about what their role is as women are.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I think that a lot of men, especially the "nice guys" have given up on pursuing because in the end, a lot of women will get bored and seek out a "bad boy" instead. The bad boys are a challenge, dramatic, roller-coaster riding, dangerous and dramatic. And that's the problem..... So sad so true. Being in my early 20s I think this is especially true.
JohnP82 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 it is hard to find women worthy of the pursuit Quoted for truth
mrkleen Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I think that a lot of men, especially the "nice guys" have given up on pursuing because in the end, a lot of women will get bored and seek out a "bad boy" instead. The bad boys are a challenge, dramatic, roller-coaster riding, dangerous and dramatic. And that's the problem..... Completely agree. I am more than happy to pursue a woman that I get positive feedback from early on. But the days of trying really hard, sending flowers and cards, and going out of my way to try and win someone over early in the game are DONE for me. Once I know we are on solid footing, I am more than happy to do anything and everything to make her feel special and loved. But early on, I am playing it cool and laying back in the cut. Too many flip flopping, hot and cold women that have no clue what they want and change their mind at the flip of a coin have ruined it for solid, sweet honest women.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 i see good looking women being pursued left and right
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Men are just as confused about what their role is as women are. Really? I mean, how hard is it to not move, be told you're beautiful and desirable and all kinds of worthless phlegm I've heard guys tell women to get into their pants and then get pursued besides? Man, my d!ck wouldn't fit in the room if I had that kind of neglect all my life. For the record, I have never not pursued women. No woman has ever pursued me, other than married women looking for a receptacle for their trash. They don't count.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 (edited) Men are just as confused about what their role is as women are. i'm not confused about my role in this matter the guy finds a woman he likes and asks her out. he takes the lead and sets up a date. he takes her out and shows her a good time. then he tries to get into her pants. whats so hard about that? Edited March 22, 2010 by alphamale
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Its the mans job to be the hunter pursuer but these days i hear guys complaining about approaching women,if they do appoaoch they usually give their numbers instead of aksing for mine and hunting me Why is this? Why arent Men Men anymore? This is like the 10th post that has said exactly the same thing by a low-post-count user in the past two weeks. They all talk about "men's jobs" and "pursuing," etc. and then whine about it not happening. Are these all the same person with a dozen sock-puppets?
Woggle Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Also men have been taught that this is sexual harrassment. I don't mean to go back to my misogynistic ways but this is one area where women or rather a certain type of women have created the situation we see today.
mortensorchid Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 This is a way of weeding out Mr. Wrong to me. When the man expects that the woman should cater to his needs and wants without the slightest concern about her needs shows the man's true colors. Yes, there are Bad Boys and Bad Girls and everything in between, but when the man blows off women or expects the woman to be submissive in each and every way, that's Mr. Wrong.
You'reasian Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 (edited) Its the mans job to be the hunter pursuer but these days i hear guys complaining about approaching women,if they do appoaoch they usually give their numbers instead of aksing for mine and hunting me Why is this? Why arent Men Men anymore? Women know they can meet a man. Just go out in public...it really is that simple! lol If you're not being persued, you might be putting out a bad signal or maybe you aren't the type/have the look of girl that guys are looking for wherever you hang out. Young, girly girls would do terrible at bars where guys go to look for cougars - curvy, big girls would do well at a bar and not as well at the gym. Know your environment. Edited March 23, 2010 by You'reasian
alphamale Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Women know they can meet a man. Just go out in public...it really is that simple! lol indeed, women can get sex a lot easier than most men can...even if they are unattractive or lacking certain qualities
St. Nick Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 indeed, women can get sex a lot easier than most men can...even if they are unattractive or lacking certain qualities That is until they get too old and too physically unattractive. Have you seen Sophia Loren, Bridgette Bardot, or Ursula Andress lately? Yikes! I'm mentioning this because the OP may be that old and is wondering why she's not attracting men like she used to in her 20s. Hence, why she's wondering why guys these days are different from the old days.
carhill Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Hey, Sophia's 75 and, if she was a good lover in 'the day', there's no reason to believe she's any less of a good lover today. Sure, the body's different; it isn't until you get older yourself that you'll realize the disconnect between how you feel and what you see in the mirror. My mom talked about that as she was approaching her 80's. She didn't 'feel' old. And, yes, men were still interested, but she wasn't. My father was her life and no one would replace him after he died.
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