alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 bascially what it comes down to is that chicks love to compete with other chicks for guys. and they all like the same kind of guy therefore they all compete for those same guys. but only some of the women will be able to get those guys
Jersey Shortie Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I am not interested in a virgin, and I won't necessarily hold it against a man for bedding alot of partners as long as he wasn't cheating and has STDS. But the way you guys talk you make it sound like women have no minds and want men to cheat on them to prove their own virality. You might as well say women love it when men beat them too. I will also say that men that sleep around alot sometimes do so, often do so, for their own validation. Their own insecurity. Although I realize most men will never admit to this, men validate themselves through sex. And if you are a man or woman that feels validated through sex, you are insecure with yourself. NO matter how the opposite sex responds to you or validates you or views the amount of people you've selpt with. So yes. Sometimes women are attracted to men that exude the confidence and charm to attract other women. This is a huge signel that he isn't a creep. And sometimes men validate themselves to appease their own insecurity about their masculinity through sleeping with women and concerning themselves with how many women other men have slept with. Neither are full proof. Neither are an exact science. So guys, in between your prattling about why women do things and why they are insecure, perhaps you should ask yourselves why men do things and why men are insecure as well.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Although I realize most men will never admit to this, men validate themselves through sex. And if you are a man or woman that feels validated through sex, you are insecure with yourself. people "validate" themselves due to a million reasons - it doesn't necessarily mean they are insecure. Actually teh majority of people have some portion of their life in which they are insecure.
Woggle Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I must admit that some men are also attracted to the worst kind of women. It seems that every man in my office except me wants to do it with my coworker who openly cheats and bashes men like it is nothing. What do all these guys see in her. I wouldn't hit it with my worst enemy's penis.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 What do all these guys see in her. they see a challenge
mrkleen Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 it means having sex with a lot of different women Thanks for that Captain Obvious
Jersey Shortie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 people "validate" themselves due to a million reasons - it doesn't necessarily mean they are insecure. Actually teh majority of people have some portion of their life in which they are insecure. Of coures people validate themselves due to a million reasons. But we are talking about sex. And yes, it makes you insecure on some level or another to varying degrees. I wouldn't hit it with my worst enemy's penis. You need to coin that.
You'reasian Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Sometimes women are attracted to men that exude the confidence and charm to attract other women. This is a huge signel that he isn't a creep. You acknowledge that women do require validation. Kudos. This is beneficial for nice guys who don't understand the personality aspect of attraction. Average guys who don't give a damn, are confident and funny can do well.
St. Nick Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I must admit that some men are also attracted to the worst kind of women. It seems that every man in my office except me wants to do it with my coworker who openly cheats and bashes men like it is nothing. What do all these guys see in her. I wouldn't hit it with my worst enemy's penis. She's easy then gets mad at men when they drop her like a broken record.
txsilkysmoothe Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Women like these men because they are attractive, not because they sleep around. If a man is attractive, he will have the opportunity to have sex with a lot of women. If he has taken advantage of this opportunity, I find that it detracts from his appeal. In fact, I would be reluctant to get involved with such a man.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 You acknowledge that women do require validation. Kudos. This is beneficial for nice guys who don't understand the personality aspect of attraction. Average guys who don't give a damn, are confident and funny can do well. I acknowledge that human beings require validation and men and women go about it differently.
ADF Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I will also say that men that sleep around alot sometimes do so, often do so, for their own validation. Their own insecurity. Although I realize most men will never admit to this, men validate themselves through sex. I, for one, will absolutely admit this. You're 100% right. Every player I've ever met was doing what he was doing at least as much for ego gratification as for sexual gratification. Frankly, I suspect guys who have sex with seven different strangers every week aren't having much GOOD sex with anybody.
sumdude Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Ahhh fahgettaboutit. There are just as many female players as male ones. They tend to come out after 35 or so though. The reason men are attracted to women who exude and aren't afraid of their sexual power is the same as women attracted to men of the same ilk. A lot of people just see sex differently.
sweetjasmine Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Like draws like. I've never slept around and have never been interested in men who did. Same here.
Wallace1 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I don't see how women would know whether or not I 'slept around'. Post college and HS, none of my female friends or women I date have any clue about that sort of stuff. I don't choose to share it, and wouldn't unless we were serious and it were a huge issue, which it has never been.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I, for one, will absolutely admit this. You're 100% right. Every player I've ever met was doing what he was doing at least as much for ego gratification as for sexual gratification. Frankly, I suspect guys who have sex with seven different strangers every week aren't having much GOOD sex with anybody. Thank you. And totally agree with how you elaborated on what I was saying. Although, they are probably happy with the amount they are having even if each sexual encounter is only really mildly satisfying. And thank you for being the rare man to be honest. Alot of guys here are more eager to tel lwomen what they think, feel or feel validated by and don't s top to evaluate their own actions honestly. Men pat each other on the back for bedding women because men sometimes validate themselves by if a woman wants him. Thinks he is good enough to be with.
marsle85 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 “Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a man's last romance.” -Oscar Wilde
torranceshipman Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Cheap girls who are easy to score with will think that you are the man. Girls who do not fit the above description will avoid you like the plague...unless you are lying through your teeth to them, and pretending you want a relationship, of course...and in that case, they don't like you because you sleep around - they like you because you pretend you are the R type that DOESN'T sleep around.
gypsy_nicky Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 this thread has turned hilarious. The men posting are wanting to justify that you dont have to have looks (or other type of social bearing) to be a womanizer. Any guy can be a womanizer as long as he dates down his league. I work with a guy who thinks he scores and plays and uses those PUA techniques on women. Having talked to him for a good while and seeing his female accomplishes I will say how disappointing. Quantity does not equal quality. A good analogy is racking up several university degrees from so-so universities.
torranceshipman Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Women like these men because they are attractive, not because they sleep around. If a man is attractive, he will have the opportunity to have sex with a lot of women. If he has taken advantage of this opportunity, I find that it detracts from his appeal. In fact, I would be reluctant to get involved with such a man. TXsilkysmoothe, is that you in your pic? Because if it is you have the nicest hair ever - I wish I could get my hair to look that good! Sorry threadjack over
Chicago_Guy Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 this thread has turned hilarious. The men posting are wanting to justify that you dont have to have looks (or other type of social bearing) to be a womanizer. Any guy can be a womanizer as long as he dates down his league. I work with a guy who thinks he scores and plays and uses those PUA techniques on women. Having talked to him for a good while and seeing his female accomplishes I will say how disappointing. Quantity does not equal quality. A good analogy is racking up several university degrees from so-so universities. That makes perfect sense! I think that practically any guy could get a lot of women if he lowers his standards enough. I suppose that those women who are below his league will think that he's a really confident guy when in reality he simply thinks that's he's much better than what those women are used to getting so he knows that that are going to have to treat him well and he'll be able to get away with a lot of bad behavior.
ADF Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 (edited) Thank you. And totally agree with how you elaborated on what I was saying. Although, they are probably happy with the amount they are having even if each sexual encounter is only really mildly satisfying. And thank you for being the rare man to be honest. Alot of guys here are more eager to tel lwomen what they think, feel or feel validated by and don't s top to evaluate their own actions honestly. Men pat each other on the back for bedding women because men sometimes validate themselves by if a woman wants him. Thinks he is good enough to be with. Jerseyshortie, I am glad we agree on this issue, but they way you phrased your response compells to add one more thing. You seem to think you understand men far better than you possibly could. This comes out most forcefully when you're berating men about their interest in porn. In your view, you're always right, you always know the whole truth, and if any of us men contradict you, we're just lying to cover up our darker impulses. This is a terribly unfair (and, frankly, arrogant) position to take. So please don't thank me for being a "rare man" who admits the truth. Believe it or not, Jerseyshortie doesn't always know what the truth is. Edited March 24, 2010 by ADF
You'reasian Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Jerseyshortie, I am glad we agree on this issue, but they way you phrased your response compells to add one more thing. You seem to think you understand men far better than you possibly could. This comes out most forcefully when you're berating men about their interest in porn. In your view, you're always right, you always know the whole truth, and if any of us men contradict you, we're just lying to cover up our darker impulses. This is a terribly unfair (and, frankly, arrogant) position to take. So please don't thank me for being a "rare man" who admits the truth. Believe it or not, Jerseyshortie doesn't always know what the truth is. I don't know what the truth is either... Just an innocent bystander alot of the time, contributing where I can and watching Jersey Shorties man-bashing crusade.
Johnny M Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 this thread has turned hilarious. The men posting are wanting to justify that you dont have to have looks (or other type of social bearing) to be a womanizer. Any guy can be a womanizer as long as he dates down his league. I work with a guy who thinks he scores and plays and uses those PUA techniques on women. Having talked to him for a good while and seeing his female accomplishes I will say how disappointing. Quantity does not equal quality. A good analogy is racking up several university degrees from so-so universities. Agreed. Guys who have no standards and sleep around with lots of ugly chicks are pretty pathetic. I know guys like that, and they think they are "players" or "don juans" or whatever, but in reality, they are just losers.
tigressA Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Agreed. Guys who have no standards and sleep around with lots of ugly chicks are pretty pathetic. I know guys like that, and they think they are "players" or "don juans" or whatever, but in reality, they are just losers. I have a friend like this. He doesn't consider himself a womanizer/player/whatever, but he does tend to hook up with girls who are, at least in terms of appearances, "beneath" him. He's a really good-looking guy and he could get really attractive girls, but he just doesn't go for them. He's pretty insecure.
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