singlelife Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Since I do sleep around I found out that most women seem to like it when men do this. They seem to like me and others who do this. So I just wanted to get inside the mind of a woman and find out why that is. We joke about it then get busy
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Simple; women are attracted to men other women are attracted to. A consistently wet noodle is social affirmation of a man's potency.
threebyfate Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Like draws like. I've never slept around and have never been interested in men who did.
O'Malley Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 women are attracted to men other women are attracted to. Like draws like. Probably a combination of the above. What explanation do you have for women who don't find you desirable?
AD1980 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Allto of women are very insecure cretures who need validation from the outside from everything to themsvles to their boyfriends.. Remember the poster here who said something like she was uspet her boyfriend was rejected by women in the past? Women want their chocie in Men to be validated by lots of other people and want other people to wish they were in her position.. Its also a competition thing
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 guys that sleep around are usually good looking and confident, two qualities that every woman loves
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Also, OP, if you're young, older married women who like to 'dabble' with single men prefer a man who sleeps around since they know he won't get 'attached' to them emotionally. Otherwise, they stick to married men for the same reason. Care less and you should be fine. I've noted your other threads on similar issues and have posted to some of them. The key is remaining detached. Even wanting to know 'why' is a form of attachment. Accept that they like you and your noodle
AD1980 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 guys that sleep around are usually good looking and confident, two qualities that every woman loves That also..If you are in the small percent of very deisrable Men sleeping around wont be as looked down upon if the guy isnt as good looking.. My friend is engaged yet has cheated on his fiance numerous times in the past..Evne married women in our social circle know this and still like him allot becasue hes really attractive and the "alpha";) of the group so to speak.. Amazing what good looking take control confident guys can get away with invovling women..
St. Nick Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Also, OP, if you're young, older married women who like to 'dabble' with single men prefer a man who sleeps around since they know he won't get 'attached' to them emotionally. Otherwise, they stick to married men for the same reason. Excluding most of the older women on this forum, however.
St. Nick Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 guys that sleep around are usually good looking and confident, two qualities that every woman loves Well, Gabriele D'Annunzio, one of the biggest womanizers in Italy during the late 19th century/early 20th century was one of the biggest womanizers in history, but he didn't have conventional beauty. He was bald, shorter than 5'4", but he had some of the most popular actresses in Europe eating out of the palm of his hand. I more agree that it's all about confidence more than looks. Womanizers don't always go for the hotties. Sometimes they also go for average-looking women with low self-esteem cuz they're easy.
aerogurl87 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I like virgins. Yes I know that's odd since most people would assume that girls don't like virgins, but I like virgins or men who have little experience. Gives me time to shape them into being great lovers the way I want them to be without them being stuck in their ways with these preconceived notions on what great sex is.
PJKino Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Never understimate how big a deal sex is to women.. I know a few women jsut recently who got back with ex's they hated because the new guy they met who were real nice guys they liked sucked in bed and there ex's were good in bed..
LovelyDaze Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Well, Gabriele D'Annunzio, one of the biggest womanizers in Italy during the late 19th century/early 20th century was one of the biggest womanizers in history, but he didn't have conventional beauty. He was bald, shorter than 5'4", but he had some of the most popular actresses in Europe eating out of the palm of his hand. I more agree that it's all about confidence more than looks. Womanizers don't always go for the hotties. Sometimes they also go for average-looking women with low self-esteem cuz they're easy. There is some truth to that. Notice the sitcoms? It's usually a run-of-the-mill "average Joe" who has a very gorgeous wife. I'm thinking of "King of Queens" "According to Jim" "Modern Family". You hardly ever see TV/Movies portray a "plain Jane" with a hot,sexy husband.
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Excluding most of the older women on this forum, however. Correct. I'm only speaking of women I know IRL. I think it's about having the 'proper' perspective about sex. My stbx first introduced me to the phrase 'sport f*cking', commonly used in the gay community, or so I was told, to describe the casual nature of such dynamics. Later, LS introduced me to FWB, another casual sex dynamic. It seems, interestingly to me, that men who are active and well versed in these dynamics are 'known' to women. They talk about them. The 'barbie hotline'
mrkleen Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 You have to define sleeping around as well. I have been with plenty of women. When I am single and not with someone that I care about, I have no problem dating 3 or 4 girls at a time and having a one night stand from time to time. But when I am committed to one person, I am 100% faithful and my heart and soul are with her. So, do women like men that have experience and have been with enough women to make them good and attentive lovers - yes. But I find it hard to believe that most women like a guy that sleeps around with every slut in town.
bac Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 No, we do not like men who sleep around. But, some women do not want a serious LTR right away for some reasons.
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Question: When the barbie hotline discloses that a man does not sleep around, does that correlate in any meaningful way to the perception that he is more LTR material than casual sex material? I ask because a man can be sexually selective but still be commitment-phobic or otherwise not LTR material. If that connection sounds wrong, why is that? More interestingly, why isn't it attractive, if it isn't? Something about social proof? What?
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 You have to define sleeping around as well. it means having sex with a lot of different women
ADF Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Because swaggering, macho behvaior is a powerful image of what it means to be a man in our culture. It isn't the only image, but it is a pretty dominant one. As a result, at least some women accept, consciously or unconsciously, that that is how "real men" are supposed to behave, and find those men attractive.
LovelyDaze Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Because swaggering, macho behvaior is a powerful image of what it means to be a man in our culture. It isn't the only image, but it is a pretty dominant one. As a result, at least some women accept, consciously or unconsciously, that that is how "real men" are supposed to behave, and find those men attractive. See, I am starting to cut through that "swagger" BS and date a nice guy who just wants a drama-free relationship. Seems like the impossible, but there has got to be guys out there who doesn't want to bang everything in sight. In fact, I know they are...I passed them up for the bad boy idiots...Mea Culpa.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Because swaggering, macho behvaior is a powerful image of what it means to be a man in our culture. It isn't the only image, but it is a pretty dominant one. As a result, at least some women accept, consciously or unconsciously, that that is how "real men" are supposed to behave, and find those men attractive. indeed ADF...its also a supply and demand issue. there is a short supply of these "macho" men ergo the demand for them is high. same with attractive women. these people can pretty much have their pick of whom to sleep with
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Funny, the guys I know who sleep around are not at all the same ones who "swagger." The dudes I know who sleep around are usually attractive but friendly with everyone, and even on the slightly effeminate side. I know two dudes who are friggin comedians, but they have no problem taking shots at themselves. They're a little "cold" when you get to know them, ie,. they're not romantic (so I hear) but they're certainly not "alpha males" or whatever. I knew one guy who slept with a lot of girls who was that way, but he was always kind of exception to the rule. The guys who sleep with lots of girls are the ones who make others feel at ease, and who WANT to sleep with lots of girls.
Woggle Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 See, I am starting to cut through that "swagger" BS and date a nice guy who just wants a drama-free relationship. Seems like the impossible, but there has got to be guys out there who doesn't want to bang everything in sight. In fact, I know they are...I passed them up for the bad boy idiots...Mea Culpa. There are man like that but when they keep getting passed up they switch their game up. I have a friend who is a player who used to be a nice guy. He always treated his girlfriend's nice. He never cheated on them, neglected them or any of that yet every single one cheated on him. After his last fiance cheated on him something in him snapped and he became a player who pretty much treats women like toys. If you see him in a room full of women it is like Casanova himself came back. One time he actually ditched a date to go flirt with another woman and both of them damn near fought over him. I don't think his behavior is right but if women are so appalled by it why didn't they appreciate when he treated them well?
carhill Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 if women are so appalled by it why didn't they appreciate when he treated them well? It's an unhealthy disconnection between intellectual want and emotional and sexual attraction. Now that this light bulb has illuminated, I don't piss away time and emotion on those dry holes trying to get them to see the light. There is no light they can see. I merely point to the guy in the room with the wettest noodle and say 'there's your man'
LovelyDaze Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 There are man like that but when they keep getting passed up they switch their game up. I have a friend who is a player who used to be a nice guy. He always treated his girlfriend's nice. He never cheated on them, neglected them or any of that yet every single one cheated on him. After his last fiance cheated on him something in him snapped and he became a player who pretty much treats women like toys. If you see him in a room full of women it is like Casanova himself came back. One time he actually ditched a date to go flirt with another woman and both of them damn near fought over him. I don't think his behavior is right but if women are so appalled by it why didn't they appreciate when he treated them well? I will agree with that to some extent. Of course a person should have control over their own emotions, personality, and beliefs. But I see how a nice man or woman will get so down after being dumped on that they try something different. Sadly "try" meaning going to the polar opposite of what they were. Kind of like a wallflower girl who gets all slut-a-rama to get attention. I think that a nice guy should never give up because there are nice girls out here who feel the same way. They just want to give and receive love to a beautiful person.
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