goatee Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 My current thinks we should see each other everyday and she gets quite upset when I don't. Is it normal in relations to see each other everyday? I feel like I don't have anytime for myself, so work->visit her->come home and sleep, repeat. What do you think?
St. Nick Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 She sounds insecure. This behavior isn't right. My suggestion: kick her to the curb.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 My BF and I typically see each other every day. I live between where he works and where he lives. We usually go out to eat dinner together or I cook for him at my house. It doesn't feel weird to hang out that much. A couple nights a week we have standing plans with our respective groups of friends, but they are always couples events, so we take each other. That said, I never ask to see him every day and he doesn't ask to see me every day. When it works out, it just works out. When it doesn't, it's not a big deal and the world doesn't end. If it's a big deal when you don't get to see each other, that's a little too clingy even for me.
Meaplus3 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 When I first starting seeing my SO, it was just a few times per week as we are both so busy with our work and kids. But, now he has sort of moved in.:love: So... everyday!:bunny: As for what I think? I think you should do what you feel is right for the R. You need to both communicate.. with regards to time spent together. Mea:)
JustJoe Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 It varied. At the start of the A, it was every couple of weeks, as it got stronger, it gradually began to be every day or every other day, until she was with me far more than her husband. Now , nada.
marsle85 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 No way- I mean yeah, it's POSSIBLE ... but I think it's hard to balance everything, INCLUDING a social life outside of your SO.
t0ri Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Earlier on, my boyfriend and I would see each other 3 or 4 times a week. Now, 4 months in, we see each other every day. However, I wouldn't get upset if my boyfriend wanted a night to himself, or to hang out with his buddies without me, and I don't think your girlfriend should be getting upset if you want that, either.
Ophelia Rue Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 (edited) Well, uh, I think it's a bit crazy that your woman wants to see you every day. No offense. I hang out with my boyfriend Friday nights, usually all Saturday through the night, and Wednesday OR Tuesday after work, unless there are special circumstances. If I didn't have a night or two to MYSELF after work during the week I would go bat***** insane. I think it's clingy and obsessive to see someone every day, especially if you're not living together. We've been dating a year and a half. I think your girlfriend is insecure...she probably thinks if she's not watching you or doesn't know where you are all the time that you're doing something you're not supposed to. You can't live like that! Edited March 23, 2010 by Ophelia Rue
D-Lish Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I hang out with my boyfriend Friday nights, usually all Saturday through the night, and Wednesday OR Tuesday after work, unless there are special circumstances. If I didn't have a night or two to MYSELF after work during the week I would go bat***** insane. Yes, this sounds incredibly reasonable! It's also the way I like things when I am seeing someone. Yes OP, your gf sounds incredibly insecure, needy, and demanding. A relationship is about balance and compromise. It doesn't sound like your gf understands or respects the fact that you want some time and space to do your own thing. In other words, this is about her and what she wants. She's not taking your needs into consideration. That's a red flag, because it indicates selfishness. I think you need to have a heart to heart with her- communicate to her that you love her, you enjoy spending time with her- but doing your own thing is also important to you. Explain it in a way that conveys that doing your own thing doesn't mean you don't love her. If she can't accept that you need a little "me" time, I'd consider leaving the relationship.
craw Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 maybe she's into you more you are into her. i've seen other couples practically together, only to go home to do laundry every two weeks. /shrug
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