New woman in my life

[someotherguy]

So, I spent a while, 7 months or so, with a girl with some emotional and other issues. I wasn't as invested in the relationship as she was, and broke up with her about a month ago. A few days after my last post about her, actually. I just couldn't commit to a relationship where she expected me to 'fix' her. I didn't need that kind of drama in my life.

 

I gave it a couple weeks, and started casually getting back into the dating game once I felt I was ready and wasn't second guessing my decision.

 

I went on a few first dates, no chemistry, a couple girls flaked out, a friend wanted to date and I brushed her off since I didn't want to blow up my circle of friends if it didn't work out.

 

Then I met an amazing woman.

 

Intelligent (PhD in a scientific field)

Stable (not on meds, has a great career)

Family oriented (has 2 kids herself)

Ready to date (been divorced 8 months, doesn't seem to display any strong hangups with her ex, already rebounded and learned some lessons)

 

And the chemistry between us, wow. I mean damn. Just fireworks galore.

 

We also both feel like we're dating 'up'. It feels very reciprocal, rather than one sided like most of my previous dates.

 

We've been on multiple dates, talk on the phone almost every day, and text several times a day when we're each not busy with work/family stuff.

 

This is the first time in my life this has ever happened, but with this woman it just feels so natural. We finish each others' sentences, it's just so smooth.

 

We emailed for a week, then talked for several hours one night. Our first date was a multi-parter, dinner, club, then dancing.

 

Midway through the date we're holding hands, she looks me in the eyes and asks me "So, we should probably stop using -dating site- right?"

 

I've never felt this comfortable with someone before several months in. We have talked about numerous normally touchy subjects without an inkling of jealousy or immaturity. We both recognize that we've each been married and had kids before, we both have relatively demanding careers, and that there are complications that arise because of those factors.

 

Maybe because we're equal in so many ways, it's easier to sympathize?

 

Obviously I'm not moving in with her next week, or asking her to marry me next month or anything, but the potential here just blows me away.

 

I guess I'm wondering how often this happens? If you play the numbers game long enough, will you just find someone like this where all the pieces just seem to fit?

[boogieboy]

It doesnt happen that often where you get the feeling that its all right.

But if youre high on meth at the time, well your view might be a lil skewed. You can replace "meth" with any addiction or mental problem.

 

if everything is fine, then dont worry about it and enjoy whats going on. Write a note to her instead of posting here.

[St. Nick]

Do you have kids yourself? If no, then you shouldn't be dating a woman with kids. Kick that broad to the curb.

[someotherguy]

Yes, I have two kids that I have full custody of.