Author USMCHokie Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 I think I'm in decent shape, but would hardly call myself awesomeness. That's reserved for studs who finish the ironman, 100 mile ultras and/or bench over 400... My brother finished an Ironman this past summer...he dared me to just show up and do one... What you say is a possibility; but I'm fairly down to earth and considerate, so I think it makes alot of women feel at ease. I'm right there with you on this one...I hope that women don't think that I judge them or anything...because I seriously would never do that...but even my ex had once told me that she felt uncomfortable with me...that she felt so pressured to be in the same shape as I was...and even if I told her that it didn't matter to me, I know that deep down she still felt uncomfortable...that's really why I asked this question... It would be nice to be with a woman whose as into fitness as myself. I'm starting to enforce stricter standards these days. Agreed.
kassy Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Ok so for the fit guys, How would you feel if you met a chick who used to be really fit, but is now injured and not especially fit and a bit chubby?? Would it bother you? I did Ironman twice a few years ago and have done some other cool things like cycled across Burma and Cambodia etc etc... but been really injured lately (like for 2 years) and am pretty fat for me right now... but getting fitter slowly as I recover. I did a 15 km coastal row the other day which was quite cool Anyway the guy I like is rediculously fit, he does stuff like cycling from tibet via everest base camp to kathmandu (it takes a month across the himalayas!) ... I just feel kinda bad being in this shape.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 Ok so for the fit guys, How would you feel if you met a chick who used to be really fit, but is now injured and not especially fit and a bit chubby?? Would it bother you? Not at all. But you still value physical fitness, which is the most important thing. It's just that sometimes sh*t happens... And congrats on all your accomplishments. I've been contemplating my brother's challenge for the Ironman though...that is, finish it with zero training...we got the idea from Barney Stinson......marathon wasn't bad...painful, but doable...
sumdude Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I've never been perfectly fit though I am now in close to the best shape of my life. At 42 I doubt I'll ever get to that 'ripped' state. I don't have the time to put into it. I have one of those broad chested builds that can put on either muscle or fat easily. When I met my ex I was around 225 which was a little out of shape. She was 5 foot 100 lbs. There were times she gained some weight but I still loved and wanted her, it bothered her more than me. Later, after we were married and went through some tough times. I was depressed and really out of shape. I got up to 270! She stayed with me for a while but eventually it became an issue for her. After all, she was around 110 and I was 270.. It wasn't the main reason she left but it was one of them. Since then I've vowed to never let myself go like that again.
Amie27 Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I've always dated mega athletes (my current boyfriend is a triathlete). I'm just not "athletic." I mean, I'm thin, I suppose. I go to the gym sometimes, and every now and then go through phases where I'll run a few miles at a time. But as far as "fitness..." I'm not really toned, let alone muscular or anything like that. But guys have told me so much that I have a nice body, that I really feel like it's what they prefer. By all accounts, I look womanly/curvy and not "hard." The one main guy I dated for a really long time always told me he thought girls who were hardcore athletes and did the same things he did, as far as fitness, were actually unattractive. He always said he wanted a woman, not someone who was just going to act and try to look manly. Anyway, if you look at, say, porn, or Maxim magazine, you see that the women considered hot don't have gladiator or triathlete bodies. They are thin, yet look like women. The standard of attractiveness for men is muscular/strong and capable of feats of endurance and strength. The standard of attractiveness for women has more to do with femininity. So really, I think comparing your fitness level to someone of the opposite gender is like apples and oranges. I don't ever understand when my girl friends want to go to the gym to lift weights. I have a lot of guy friends, and a brother, and I've never heard one complain that a girl they were dating was a weenie or wasn't muscular enough. Hopefully this isn't considered sexist, it's just the information I've gleaned from my own personal experiences. At least I'll keep telling myself that... Although I really do need to work on my arms... All that being said, I suppose that judging by my past and current preferences, I like a guy to be way more fit than me. As long as he is good at complimenting me, I will feel secure in my womanly body.
Johnny M Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I've never been perfectly fit though I am now in close to the best shape of my life. At 42 I doubt I'll ever get to that 'ripped' state. I don't have the time to put into it. I have one of those broad chested builds that can put on either muscle or fat easily. When I met my ex I was around 225 which was a little out of shape. She was 5 foot 100 lbs. There were times she gained some weight but I still loved and wanted her, it bothered her more than me. Later, after we were married and went through some tough times. I was depressed and really out of shape. I got up to 270! She stayed with me for a while but eventually it became an issue for her. After all, she was around 110 and I was 270.. It wasn't the main reason she left but it was one of them. Since then I've vowed to never let myself go like that again. Staying in shape is really not that hard. Eating right and working out a couple of times is not too arduous a task. Most people who are overweight are simply lazy - and laziness is a lifestyle choice.
sumdude Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Staying in shape is really not that hard. Eating right and working out a couple of times is not too arduous a task. Most people who are overweight are simply lazy - and laziness is a lifestyle choice. Agreed to a point. Dropping 50 lbs in six months was hard.. very hard. There are genetic differences and certain disorders such as thyroid problems in play that add more of a challenge for some folks. It does get harder as you age with changes in your metabolism. But yeah.. in the end it is a lifestyle choice.
MsArtful Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 I'm in this exact situation. My boyfriend is fit and I'm overweight and I do feel self concious about it. I exercise almost every day and before I met my boyfriend I'd lost 15kg and it's not that I'm lazy it's just that I've been my current weight for a year and I'm finding the extra 15kg very difficult to shift. I'm trying to vary my exercise to get into better shape. Hopefully it doesn't matter too much to my boyfriend - he wouldn't be with me if he didn't find me attractive right? Guys are different with respect to their tastes, some won't even consider you if you carry a bit of extra weight.
You'reasian Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 Challenge? How good can you handle your chopsticks? oh wait, you only use fork and knife, right? LOL! !!! I'm pretty comfortable with chopsitcks, fork and knife, soup spoon or just my right hand.
tami-chan Posted March 28, 2010 Posted March 28, 2010 I'm pretty comfortable with chopsitcks' date=' fork and knife, soup spoon or just my right hand.[/quote'] "or just my right hand" to do what? I only use my right hand to use chopsticks....
kassy Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I don't ever understand when my girl friends want to go to the gym to lift weights. I have a lot of guy friends, and a brother, and I've never heard one complain that a girl they were dating was a weenie or wasn't muscular enough. Yeah, I think the difference between you and me is that I don't do endurance sports so that I can have a toned body to pick up the men... I do sports because I love the sports, the training, the lifestyle etc etc The men, well they are just a bonus I really think you should look at exercise in terms of being healthy, not just what is attractive to the opposite sex...
You'reasian Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 "or just my right hand" to do what? I only use my right hand to use chopsticks.... Tami, people from different parts of the world eat with their hands only. You don't even have to learn how to coordinate two fancy sticks to pick up a piece of lamb or bread, just your hand: simple & effective
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