Abril Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 my ex we broke up in january message me 2 tomes today one was early mroning becuase is my borthday i didnt reply anything to him and tonight he emailed me wishing me happy birthday! why and ex could be interested in be sure you know he is wishing you a happy birthday! i still love him but i did not replied him anything
bubbles5 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Its becos he remembers ur birthday.Even if u r hurt have courtesy to say thank u, He may want to b ur friend or want to rebound.Or he just remebers it so he is just wishing u.You still love him but he may just want to b friend. Talk to him or msg him bak.
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Nooooo!! Do not message him back! this is the classic tactic by a dumper! yanking your chain to see if you're still hanging there! It's got nothing to do with courtesy! If it did, he'd be courteous enough to leave you alone! Once you reply, he will know he can get a response form you, just because he wants one - and it's always - but always for their benefit, not yours. It makes them feel good. If he dumped you, he doesn't care quite enough about you to still be with you - but he cares enough to want to make himself feel better about dumping you! Do NOT reply! Now, ever, NEVER!! Way to go, Abril! Hang in there!
brwneyedgrl3333 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Abril...I agree with TaraMaiden...Don't do it!! How will you feel if you respond to him and you never hear another word from him? Or..maybe mesage back and forth a few times, you get your hopes up and then BAM!...he quits responding again? He's just checking to see if you're still there waiting....don't respond! Take care of you. He more then likely just needs the ego fix or is trying to alleviate some guilt. Once he hears back from you it will be business as usual. Don't fall for it and set yourself back....No Contact UNLESS you KNOW you can handle the "what if's" after the fact. Like Tara said...if he cared about you he'd leave you alone to heal, plain and simple. And don't be surprised if you have very mixed emotions about this that come out of the blue. Don't feel guilty for choosing NOT to respond if that is your choice...again...you need to take care of you first and foremost. My birthday is the 30th and I'm hoping the day comes and goes with nothing from my ex...once it's over with, I feel that that will be yet another hurdle in the healing and being able to move forward more. I received a 1-line email 3 weeks ago from my ex (he was the dumper) after 2 months of absolutely no contact. I didn't respond and I've not heard another peep and don't expect to. It's not easy but it's nessessary. And Happy Belated birthday by the way!! Hope it was a happy one.
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