Striicken Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 This will be a little long so I apologize for this but I really need help with this matter. Thank you I am 18 and my ex is 17. She is my ex of 4 years, She has cheated on me, lied to me, yelled at me for no reasons, taken her anger out on me. 4 years I have never done such things, I am not perfect but I never thought of doing those things. She forced me to make our relationship an open relationship because of the distance (I live in Michigan and she lives in Pennsylvania). Before our relationship changed she kisses this girl in her class and texted me telling me she did. I got mad and upset and she got pissed off at me. After a while she came to me and told me she wants it to be an open relationship, she will do other things with guys and girl but will never have feelings for them and will never leave me, she will always come back to me after doing what ever with them. Okay so I believed it and I told her okay but deep inside I never wanted it to be an open relationship. So I asked her to make me a promise that is from my heart. I asked her not to do anything with a guy until I came to visit her and make love. Which was going to be a few months back and she said she promises she won't but was mad because she saw it as not a big deal it's just sex. But to me it was more than sex. So she told me she was going to the movies with her guy friend and I thought nothing of it because I trusted her and loved her. during the movie I texted her a few times saying "I love you and I miss you, hope you're having fun :]) got not reply so she comes back and is happy and I was happy that she had a good time. So a week goes by and on New Years day of this year the first day of 2010, I was talking to her and telling her how beautiful she was and how much I loved her, out of nowhere she says "baby I have something to tell you" then said "I know it will hurt you but it will hurt even more if I wait" then said "I......I gave Anthony head". She gave her friend head at the movies after making a promise that meant to much to me. I stood up and I fell down because I was so upset and angry I just lost it. My whole body was cold. I called her and asked her why, she had no reason and no explanation. She said "I want to break up" there was not much I could say, I was going to anyway for what she did. So days went on and I kept asking her why, I told her how badly it hurt me and she got pissed off at me for making her feel bad. So she told me to kill myself and she hated me and never wanted to talk to me again. I will skip the rest because it is WAY too much for you to read just like this is but I'm sorry I just need help on this. So a month goes by after no contact with her, she unblocks me and says she wants to talk to me, I thought about it and went along with it but I was still VERY angry with her. blah blah blah she tells me about her new boyfriend wont have sex with her in public, I get mad because why would you tell me that?...so I blocked her. 4 weeks after that I receive an email from a guy named steve. I don't know a steve but it was from sprint so I knew it was not spam. I open it and guess what I see...A picture of my ex on her knees giving this guy head. I sat here and my whole body went cold, not from sadness but from so much anger and hate. I thought about calling the police and reporting it as child pornography since she is underage and he is 19. I decided not to since I don't want to deal with all of that. She is a worthless disgusting whoree, she has been with 5 guys an given them all sex in less than a month. I still think about her from time to time and I think back on our happy memories and the days we spent that made me so happy but look at what she has done to me. A guy that loved her with his whole heart, would have died for her, went out of his way to do things that other guys would not do. She was the first person I told that I have oral herpes and she did not walk away, she told me it did not matter because she loved me. I'm scared to date again because I will have to tell the girl that I have these horrible thing and I don't want her to walk away from me =\ I take care of it I only get 1 outbreak a year which is in the winter. Sorry for this being so long but please reply as to how you feel on this, please make me feel better and make me realize that I do not need her. I need someone to put some sense into my head.
mella Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Oh geez, she was awful to you. She obviously has insecurity issues and low self esteem and is an attention whore. It sounds so trite to say you are better off, but you REALLY are. Your mind goes back to the happy memories because that is the closest relationship in your memory. Time passing, and you allowing yourself to be in a new relationship will heal all that. It sounds like she was controlling and manipulative and just a bad partner, so be sure to choose more wisely for yourself next time! She sounds like a mess and a drama magnet. Plain and simple: YOU DONT NEED THAT CRAP IN YOUR LIFE. I am so sorry about the email, I am sure that was very shocking and upsetting. What was the point of sending you that and how did that person get your address? I don't understand that one. Do you think she told him to send it to you? I know you are sad, but I'd be willing to bet that one day you will look back on this craziness and shake your head, wondering how you allowed yourself to be involved with someone so selfish and flawed.
Author Striicken Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 (edited) Yes she gave him my email address, she knows my AIM screen name so it's just that with @aim.com at the end. Thank you for your reply, I know I do not need that in my life and the next girl I fall for I will make sure she will not do the same thing. She sent me that picture to make me jealous and she knew it would hurt me. She wanted to know that I would be hurt and sad from seeing that picture. She is very immature and is a attention whore. It is sad to see what she is doing. I will look back on this and shake my head then kiss my girlfriend and tell her how much I love her and I will thank her for not hurting me and putting me through so many problems. I did nothing to deserve this life, she turned my life into hell and I can never forgive her for that nor will I even think about it. I told her to never call me or contact me again and I blocked her forever. I will never speak a word to her again. Edited March 22, 2010 by Striicken
USMCHokie Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I say good riddance. I would never want someone like that long term...you should have ended it when she suggested an open relationship... Ah, young whores...willing to do anything for a little attention from the guys...
Author Striicken Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 I say good riddance. I would never want someone like that long term...you should have ended it when she suggested an open relationship... Ah, young whores...willing to do anything for a little attention from the guys... Yeah I agree =\ I thought about it but I loved her and I wanted to make her happy. I was a fool in love and I did not stop to think that she was making me do things I did not want to to. She is a whore that wants attention. Getting on her knees for guys she does not know, makes her feel wanted but really they do not want her, they just want her for sex and she likes that.
mella Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 She never deserved you in the first place. I hope you will never give her the time of day again. She is a horrendous person. Your mother didn't give birth to you to have you walking the earth being treated like that. You are going to be just fine. You should make a list of all the awful things she has done and said to you, and when you get sad or your mind takes you back to the good memories, pull that sh*t out and read it. Keep her in perspective - she is no good!
Author Striicken Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 She never deserved you in the first place. I hope you will never give her the time of day again. She is a horrendous person. Your mother didn't give birth to you to have you walking the earth being treated like that. You are going to be just fine. You should make a list of all the awful things she has done and said to you, and when you get sad or your mind takes you back to the good memories, pull that sh*t out and read it. Keep her in perspective - she is no good! It has gotten better now, I don't think about her as much but when I do I feel kind of sad and I instantly think about what she did and I instantly realize what kind of person she is and all of the horrible things she did do me race through my mind in 5 seconds. I have met new girls and they keep my mind off of her which is amazing. To my ex it was just about sex sex sex. She wanted sex instead of having a guy like me. There are so many girls out there that want a guy like me and one of them deserves me and I will find her.
mella Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Great attitude, keep it up. If you relapse into negative thinking, we are all here to whip you back into shape!
Author Striicken Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 haha thank you very much! This is why I come to this website, great help and a wonderful community
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