dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I took a girl I knew out to dinner. We found out we both love french silk pie, so we went to village in. We each got a dinner meal there and we shared with each other. We shared a piece of pie and everything. I was asking questions about her and she was doing the same. Everything was going great. She did say though that she wants to see whats out there and then settle down into a long term relationship with someone. I respected this decision, she was in BASIC and AIT for the last 7 months, and her ex broke up with her during basic. She has only been back for about a month and a half. After dinner, we were going to go bowling, but we decided to sit and talk. We had dinner for about 1 hour which we talked, and then again after dinner we talked for about 2 hours. We seemed to click and match on every level, everything seemed to be going great and I couldn't of asked for a better time. At the end of the night, we parted out way and we hugged 3 times, each hug was a big long lasting hug. We talked about how we would stay in touch and everything, she told me to text her whenever and we will play it by ear. But she said that she DEF wanted to hangout again. Here is my problem though, i texted her the next day like she said i told her i had a great time and everything. She never texted me back EVER. Now before the date she would always text me back. During the date she specifically told me that she was interested. It has been two days since our date, i've sent about 3 texts with NO RESPONSE what so ever. I have got a feeling in my stomach that she ain't interested, even though the day leading up to our date she really was interested:/ Her are my questions 1)she wants to see whats out there, do i keep dates going with this girl? 2)why would she tell me she is interested when if she isn't, she should just tell me? 3)how do i go about finding out if she is still interested? 4)should i stop all communication with her, and see if she responds 5) should i move on and take my losses? I really like this girl, and i thought we really clicked. I was accepting the whole i wanna c whats out there attitude of hers. It just sucks waiting for a response from her, if she ain't interested, just tell me. Its that simple, but i don't want to be overbearing and I don't want to screw this up. All help is needed!!! Thanks, Devin M
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 does anyone have any advice? Ehhh i'm kind of at a stand still here I don't know what she really wants or anything.
Lishy Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 The best thing to do now is nothing, to be honest if she was interested she would have replied I totally get how frustrating this is for you. Dont text her again it will make you look desperate
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Hey Lishy thanks, its just why would she say she was interested and wanted a 2nd date if she wasn't. But ill stop texting her and see what see does, we cuddled and everything while talking it just seems like crappy. All these mixed signs BLOW!!!!!!! Its hard not to text her, cuz im super interested but i know whats best and i'll let it play out. Thanks again.
Lishy Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I know it is hard hon I dont know why she has blown hot then cold but the truth will out and in the mean time just keep busy and keep your fingers from dialling her digits lol
gypsy_nicky Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I took a girl I knew out to dinner. We found out we both love french silk pie, so we went to village in. We each got a dinner meal there and we shared with each other. We shared a piece of pie and everything. I was asking questions about her and she was doing the same. Everything was going great. She did say though that she wants to see whats out there and then settle down into a long term relationship with someone. I respected this decision, she was in BASIC and AIT for the last 7 months, and her ex broke up with her during basic. She has only been back for about a month and a half. After dinner, we were going to go bowling, but we decided to sit and talk. We had dinner for about 1 hour which we talked, and then again after dinner we talked for about 2 hours. We seemed to click and match on every level, everything seemed to be going great and I couldn't of asked for a better time. At the end of the night, we parted out way and we hugged 3 times, each hug was a big long lasting hug. We talked about how we would stay in touch and everything, she told me to text her whenever and we will play it by ear. But she said that she DEF wanted to hangout again. Here is my problem though, i texted her the next day like she said i told her i had a great time and everything. She never texted me back EVER. Now before the date she would always text me back. During the date she specifically told me that she was interested. It has been two days since our date, i've sent about 3 texts with NO RESPONSE what so ever. I have got a feeling in my stomach that she ain't interested, even though the day leading up to our date she really was interested:/ Her are my questions 1)she wants to see whats out there, do i keep dates going with this girl? 2)why would she tell me she is interested when if she isn't, she should just tell me? 3)how do i go about finding out if she is still interested? 4)should i stop all communication with her, and see if she responds 5) should i move on and take my losses? I really like this girl, and i thought we really clicked. I was accepting the whole i wanna c whats out there attitude of hers. It just sucks waiting for a response from her, if she ain't interested, just tell me. Its that simple, but i don't want to be overbearing and I don't want to screw this up. All help is needed!!! Thanks, Devin M you wait....then you take it from there. Don't cut her out (if you really like her)- it's too early to tell. Do see other people as well.
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 I know it is hard hon I dont know why she has blown hot then cold but the truth will out and in the mean time just keep busy and keep your fingers from dialling her digits lol i haven't called her yet after the date FYI, would a call be more helpful then texting. I haven't called her cause i didn't want to be overbearing. I don't want to text anymore, but i thought a call would show more interest then just me sending texts, the advice here is great thank you!
single-n-lonely Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Stop texting her! 3 times in 2 days with no responses is way too much. u will scare her away
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 you wait....then you take it from there. Don't cut her out (if you really like her)- it's too early to tell. Do see other people as well. I have another girl in mind, i am currently talking to two.. Both are pretty much the same but one is in the army reserves and one isn't. I haven't hung out with the other one though, She don't get back till the 29th of March. Now this 2nd girl tells me she is INTERESTED for sure, so i'll just let everything play out and see what happens. Anymore advice?
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Stop texting her! 3 times in 2 days with no responses is way too much. u will scare her away will do thanks single-n-lonely, its just tough when one person is interested and you don't know for sure how the other person feels thats all.
Lishy Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Nope dont call her either ... do not touch that phone! No contact now
stillafool Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 No, definitely do not contact her again. She isn't interested. She said she was because she was right there in your face. People lie and it sucks! She probably felt it would hurt you to say "I'm not interested, but thanks for spending your money taking me to dinner, bowling, etc. The next time don't hug (3) times go in for the kiss.
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 No, definitely do not contact her again. She isn't interested. She said she was because she was right there in your face. People lie and it sucks! She probably felt it would hurt you to say "I'm not interested, but thanks for spending your money taking me to dinner, bowling, etc. The next time don't hug (3) times go in for the kiss. I should of went in for the kiss, i was thinking of doing it all night. I decided against it thought, cause i didn't want to scare her, i wanted to play it safe. I just want an honest women, it hurts me more not to be told exactly what is going on. It would hurt alot less, if she simply said i ain't interested in you thanks for a nice time. But i guess not all women are like that. I honestly would have a rather very attached women who is interested then one who is interested who isn't so attached.
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Thanks everyone for their help, anymore advice??
mrkleen Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 It has nothing to do with the kiss....or anything else. You were too eager with multiple text messages so soon after and you probably scared away someone that was just getting to know you. Back off, move on and if she reaches out to you, take it slow. For your own good...STOP BEING SO EAGER. A little bit of distance and mystery goes a long way.
Author dmueller9834 Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 EDIT - She messaged me through my face book. Here was our CONVO her - i worked all day yesterday so when i got off i just drove home and went to sleep. and then today i went to church and again i worked all day. plus when i got off and i realized that my phone had died. so i'm not ignoring you, just to let you know. me- sorry for all the confusion Renee. Hopefully you're still interested cause I plan on keeping you that way lol. And we DEF should hangout, village inn was great. her - agreed. maybe next weekend or somethin Does it look like im back in it with this girl, i stopped the texts and whatnot. I won't be so EAGER this time around, can I still save this??
Thebob Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Eff that, don't text her. I had this happen to me. I hate girls that do this **** and they cant be real with you from the get-go. Girls, dont play game with a guy, if your not interested tell him, don't tell him you want to hang out again when you have no interest at all. Just leave the date when you start to get bored. It will make things a whole lot easier. Thebob
crfsti Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Seems like you are still in it for now, just take it slow. It's still way early to know if this is going to work, don't drive yourself crazy over it. I have had this kind of thing happen to me dozens of times, where you go out on a date with a girl, have a great time, make her laugh, etc. and she seems to be into you and your feeling awesome....then you try to get in contact with her to setup another get-together and never get any replies from her. And your left wondering "what the heck did I do wrong" and you never find out what happened and what you can do the next time to avoid it, so your not left feeling like total crap afterwards.
crfsti Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Eff that, don't text her. I had this happen to me. I hate girls that do this **** and they cant be real with you from the get-go. Girls, dont play game with a guy, if your not interested tell him, don't tell him you want to hang out again when you have no interest at all. Just leave the date when you start to get bored. It will make things a whole lot easier. Thebob I agree man as you can see in my other post, these bull**** games they play with your mind shorten your life, i swear.
Thebob Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I agree man as you can see in my other post, these bull**** games they play with your mind shorten your life, i swear. I mean seriously though, there was this girl I was talkin to for 2 months, she would initiate me, I would initiate her and it seemed to be moving along. I found out she liked me but distance was an issue. Then her friends wanted me to pursue her and try to make it work. So I asked her out on 2 dates and she totally ditched them, then all of a sudden she sends me a text saying that we should go out to the mall on this day at this time. SO i was like, sounds good, and maybe this can work. Anyways we had a great time for 3 hours, but at the end of the date I gave her a hug goodbye and looked for signs if she wanted to kiss like she did before and there was nothing. So I knew something was up. Anyways i go up to visit one of her friends when she was there and she ignored me pretty much the whole time. I just stopped talking to her cause i was sick of being stringed along when her friends and my buddy were telling me different. Girls need to be straight up about there intentions and need to stop beating around the bush. If your not interested be a hardass and say it, don't go on a date cause you feel bad for the guy. Guys get the picture if something isn't going right. I wasted 2 months of trying to make it work with this girl. Thebob
stillafool Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I say give her another chance. If she blows you off after that, leave her alone for good.
mrkleen Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 "Maybe next weekend or somethin" doesnt sound like an enthusiastic reply. I would still suggest you move on....and let her come to you. Sorry to say, but I dont think she is that into this - and while she may agree to go out if you keep pestering her, she isnt going to initiate. That kind of imbalance in a relationship is not healthy.
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