Cannondale Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I met a new girl over college break and we hit it off really well. We went out four times and we both introduced each other to our friends which also went well. She did also stay over to my place one night and we did end up sleeping together. So everything is great right? Well now that she's going back to school next week she says she doesn't know how much we're going to be able to see each other as her schedule is "crazy". I would just say it was a dumb fling, but she talks about the future and has invited me to go with her to events next month. She also left a bunch of her stuff at my place, and I know she didn't forget all of this stuff.... So I don't know what to do, she lives about 40mins away from me, but it's doable....I just don't want to get involved with a girl who can only see me a couple of times a month. I haven't talked with her about it in depth, I'm trying to not get too attached or be clingy. What does everyone think?
Ilovehim Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 hmmm...this is tricky because i'm a college student and i am indeed very busy..but i absolutely have to see someone i like at least once a week. i woudl say to not be clingy and to kind of leave the ball on her court for a little while...then take it from there..after you give her some space, i would ahve a talk with her about where this is going..tell her what you want and ask her to be honest with you..see what she says and then decide on what to do.
aroll32 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I've posted about a topic similar to this before. Basically what people told me was that it's college. You only have a chance to do it once, enjoy it while you can because you have the rest of your life to find someone you want to be with forever. And it's most likely not going to happen in college. So do you want, if you to date her, do it. And that's the information I got in a nutshell. My personal opinion is that you shouldn't confine yourself to a relationship where the girls schedule is hectic and will only be able to see you a couple times a month. Especially if you have a busy schedule too. Maybe put things off until the summer? I don't know, if figured out how to deal with something like this, the girl wouldn't have left lol.
phineas Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 she probably has someone else at college & just hooked up with you.
sagetalk Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I've been in this situation. Do not be clingy, I can't stress that enough. Find out her schedule and work around it. If she blows you off even when she's not busy doing something else, then you are in trouble. If you really like her and you think she's worth the risk, I'd go for it. Just don't get you're hopes set too high. Long distance is tough, but if she's the right girl, you'll be glad you stuck with it. If she's making plans months ahead, that's good. If she sticks to them, that's really good. Why do you need a girl right near you all the time? 40 minutes away is nothing, and I don't see this as a big deal. If you both are compatible, this can be done.
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