LondonS Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 so this friend of mine is dating a man in his 40ies from last two months, she is 37... she has discovered her bf has a live dating profile on a well known dating website where he stated himself single and looking for female between 25-36.. so whats going on here, is he not serious with my friend ? what is he playing at?? please share some thoughts...
carhill Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 'I'm at the point where I don't have any interest in meeting or seeing other people. I like/love where we are going and spending time with you. How do you feel about that' Listen. Compare with actions. Decide if the dynamic is healthy. Act on that decision. - The key here is being proactive. If the friend wants exclusivity and for the dating profile to disappear, she needs to offer up and express her opinion of the 'relationship' and its parameters. She can also choose to sit back and let the man decide that. If the conversation yields a positive reaction from the man - 'honey, I don't want to see anyone other than you. I love the time we spend together and being with you bla, bla bla' , then she can say 'That's wonderful; I don't see any reason for either of us to have dating profiles up anymore then.' Listen. Compare with actions. Decide if that dynamic is healthy. Act on that decision. Good luck
ashleigh422 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I totally agree... they really need to discuss this matter. I mean honestly, I wouldn't write him off, unless they already had the exclusive talk.. which to me, they have been dating for two months, there's probably a 50/50 chance they did not have it yet. Soo.. if they didn't she needs to tell him what she wants and needs from him. If she needs exclusivity and f for some reason he doesnt, and she cannot bear the fact he doesn't want to.. then its time for her to call it quits.
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