xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 because the people I went out with ( one of my best friends and a guy friend) could not afford to pay their share. My best friend had only a 20 dollar bill and the guy had abut $46 yet I still ended up up footing about 2/3 of it. I'm angry because a quarter of the bill has been multiple orders of shots of alcohol ( I had only 2 shots) and around $35 were for hookah. Every shot they ordered totaled to $8 per shot, not to mention the fact they continously ordered shot after shot, when I told them to quit while they were ahead. Not to mention there was around a $33 service fee charge. I'm angry at myself for saying I'll foot my best friend's share ( because she's practically broke) but I felt like at the end of the night she took advantage of my hospitality. The guy friend ended up being a huge douchebag because why the hell would you order so much drinks only to end unable to pay your share at the end of the night? I ended up with around a $140 loss. I don't know how to deal with my friends. I mean it's bad enough I have to deal with jerks that are after sex, now I have to contend with broke friends? What the hell?
carhill Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Presuming your friends aren't broke from their generous hospitality to you, find different friends. It's really as simple as that. When things aren't feeling 'friendly' to me, I become a black hole. Disappear. Bye-bye I do this because adults know exactly what they're doing when they act like this. They're not children; even if they are, they're not *my* children, so someone else can teach them manners, preferably not the undertaker.
Lizzie60 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Ouch!... I agree with Carhill.. do NOT hang out with broke friends.. they are parasites.. Next time something like this happens.. just say.. 'I also only have $20, now what do we do?'... what if you didn't have the money too? Gosh.. what's with people.. they know they have no money but yet.. drink like they're millionnaires.. 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Yeah well I'm still upset. I hit moochers and it's even worse when they're my friends. I really feel like this is the last straw with my girl friend. After she stole my friends and the guy that I had like, I don't know how I can forgive her. I mean I'm nice to people, but am I too nice? The guy friend is another thing. If he had wanted to drink he should have drunk on his own time or money. Ordering 5 to 6 shots alcohol and complaining about not even feeling tipsy, then having ME foot the bill? :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
threebyfate Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 So this is the "friend" who badmouths you behind your back, deliberately goes after guys you're interested in and now, used you for cash? It's time to cut bait, this girl is a friggen' nightmare!
Rearden Metal Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Lame as hell. Now, I have some broke friends (and I'm nowhere near as loaded as I was pre-divorce), and I will on occasion invite someone out and tell them beforehand that I'm covering the bill for the night. I do this because I want to, and if I don't, they can't go out. In these situations, I don't feel taken advantage of. However, one thing I will do is tell the server that only I am to order the drinks. Then, I'll go up each round and order. This way, nobody is popping $300 bottles of champagne with a tramp in the mens room on my tab.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 So this is the "friend" who badmouths you behind your back, deliberately goes after guys you're interested in and now, used you for cash? It's time to cut bait, this girl is a friggen' nightmare! Yes, I'd tried to give her another chance since her friendship meant everything to me but unfortunately I realize that she can selfish. I can't handle being friends with someone who uses me because I try to be there for her everytime and yet to have my kindness thrown back in my face in the form of betrayal.
2sunny Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Yes, I'd tried to give her another chance since her friendship meant everything to me but unfortunately I realize that she can selfish. I can't handle being friends with someone who uses me because I try to be there for her everytime and yet to have my kindness thrown back in my face in the form of betrayal. wow, this sounds brutal. i hate to be harsh here - but this is not what friendship looks like. seriously, who taught you that this is acceptable behavior in an enemy - much less a friend? they can only take advantage of you if YOU allow it. YOU allow such behavior and then reward them by paying... how is this right? oh ya, it gives you good cause to complain about them. get new friends! but not before you decide on healthy boundaries for yourself that will never tolerate this in anyone around you. when i see this - i leave. you knew what to expect based on past behavior and you participated anyway. you have no one to blame but yourself - take responsibility for that and try to make sure it never looks this way again. by setting new standards for yourself - it will automatically eliminate these sorts of people. or, if you ever come across this in the future - it will surely never happen a second time. 1
Mary3 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 X : She is not your best friend. She is not even your friend. ( sorry but she is being cruel to you and its time to end this facade of a friendship. She will continue to suck you dry if you let her . And if you feel you have few friends well then you STILL need to end this . I had the same situation with a friend. ) From all that you have written. : The guy is also a jerk. He's got $ 46 in his pocket , at best that gives him 5 shots at $ 8 a shot. That does not give him enough for the dinner ( if any ) hookah or service fees. Where does HE get off expecting you to pay. Hey ALOT of us are hurting right now , unemployed and ect. So If we are broke we don't go. Now if a friend says I want to buy you dinner after some hedging I would kindly accept and try to leave the tip. Did he tip the servers and bartenders at ALL ?
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