Eclypse Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I posted earlier about a girl I had met and didn't get her number and added her on facebook instead. I think it's a dead end... however something amazing happened last night. There's a girl whom I've known for a few years now and I got a crush on her the first day I met her, and I was too scared to talk to her for ages. Then last night just before I leave to go to a party she randomly messages me asking me what I was doing after my party. I tell her nothing and she asks if I want to go to a club with her and one of her girlfriends. Now you have to bear in mind that I had not talked to her very much at all before this! Just the odd facebook message / exchange of banter when we worked the same shift. Of course like the puppy dog I am I accepted her invite and went to the club after the party ended. We were both pretty drunk, and as soon as she saw me she just grabbed my hand and led me in and actually bought me a drink! This is most unusual, I usually have enough trouble buying drinks for girls! Let alone have one buy me one. We ended up dancing together and grinding and hooked up and groped each other. It was an absolutely amazing surreal experience. I was very happy. I never once imagined this would have happened. To go from almost never talking to this so quickly. However now I'm feeling a bit apprehensive, as I guess most people in this sort of situation would be. I am honestly not sure what to do now. Do I follow that 3 day rule?? Or something else. Also I'm not sure how she sees me. Ever since I added her on facebook, I've noticed she seems to be a bit of an attention seeker with her statuses notes etc, and most of her friends are guys who comment on her photos saying how hot she is etc. And at the night club there was like 3 guys drooling over her like they were starving wolves and she was a piece of meat! She was flirting with all of them, so I decided to ignore her for a bit. She came back to me and that's when we hooked up, and as far as I'm aware Im the only person she kissed. While I do like her, I'm not sure how a relationship with her would work, she seems the type who enjoys attention a lot. That said though if all we ever did was hook up occasionaly, even that wouldn't be too bad I guess. I would not like it if we never spoke again though.
mrt336 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Don't chase and don't expect a relationship. Give it a week or two, if she doesn't bring up hanging out again, ask her to do something fun and if she agrees just take it from there. If she declines and doesn't have a legit excuse then consider it a dead end.
Author Eclypse Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Thanks. I've had a conversation with her and the kiss wasn't brought up. It's really awkward now. I want to bring it up but I'm not exactly sure how. Damn and I thought it got easier once you got the first kiss!
ashleigh422 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Since you already talked to her this morning there is no way to follow any sort of rule... soo... Yes, the kiss put you in an ackward position, but you gotta bring it up.. i'd say.. "so the other night..." and give her some smile/flirty look.. and if she doens't respond, she either, a. doesn't remember or b. doesn't want to talk about it.. in that case, don't try to persue her. If she says... what about it.. and you say, "I really enjoyed the time we spent together... So I was thinking maybe you would let me take you out.. (this friday, saturday whenever)" This will benefit here needyness by showing her some real positive attention. PS-*It does get better (easier and less stressful) after the first kiss if you are mature and not totally **** bombed when you do it...
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