OOReeee Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Argh. So I went away for spring break to clear my thoughts. Instead, it is quite the opposite, I can't stop thinking about my ex. The weird feelings that I had are not hatred but a weird mish-mash of enjoying the time we had together and how sweet she was and wishing we had more time. For some reason my mind continuiously blocks the bad feelings, all the anger I had last week. I feel like I need to break contact and talk to her, explain to her why I am not talking to her, and why i am not being childish by not talking to her. This is just too weird. It's driving me down and I don't like it.
Rearden Metal Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 just tell her then Um, no. You're like me. You want to explain yourself so that there's no confusion on her end and she can "see" that you are doing the right thing. But nothing you say will change anything right now. Won't have the desired effect. Trust me, I broke NC and wrote a lengthy email, which opened it up for my ex to contact me with the offer of crumbs. Which, of course, ended in more NC. Skip that step. Continue doing what you're doing. Accept the feelings and thoughts you have as valid, logical reactions to coping. Then, push forward with your day, today. Then tomorrow. Rins and Repeat.
OndaChin Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 It's tough.... But keep to your guns bro!! Stay NC and try to remember ALL THE THINGS THAT BROUGHT YOU TO THIS POINT- i.e., her crap and behavoir. I've been down this road and can promise you that it will only continue in misery once you open the door again for her to contact you. She will get you to comply with her wishes.... "They usually do"- until you break the vicious cycle. My ex, bitch-slapped me like a paddle-pong toy and only after serious thought did I finally break the habit of coming back to her for another "mental beat-down". I went cold turkey "NC" and never looked back. Lesson learned!! Trust me, it doesnt do you any good to have contact at this point. Your NUTZ belong on the chin of a woman NOT on the floor!! So wear them proudly..... a place them correctly!! THIS MESSAGE IS APPROVED BY NUTZ "ONDACHIN".
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