now_what Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Ok, I'm probably being an idiot, but... My ex filed contempt charges against me claiming I have failed to make a couple of mortgage payments - one in June 2009 and one in January 2010. I inadvertently found out this out when for for some strange reason I was looking at online court records and saw that he reopened our case. I thought wtf? He had never EVER said a word about this to me - actually he has not breathed a word to me since last May (will only email). I got his number from my daughter and called him. Well, I had plenty to say - I totally went off on him. I probably unleashed all the fury I had been holding inside since he left me September 08. I have not failed to make any payments, and in January I made the payment late because I did not receive my child support - that's another story. It just outraged me that he would file charges on me behind my back without having discussed the issue with me. I have never been so mad in my entire life. Today, I was thinking that maybe I shouldn't have gotten so mad, but at the time anger was the only thing I was feeling. Would it be stupid to apologize to him for getting so mad? My 17 year old daughter was home at the time and she didn't hear everything I said, but she came in the room after I had hung up and of course saw me upset and I told her what had happened which upset her a great deal. Yeah, it would probably be dumb, he obviously has no problem with hurting me, and this incident has pretty much killed any feelings I may have had where I thought we could still be "friendly" toward each other. I basically want nothing to do with him.
Author now_what Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 C'mon guys. Would it be insane to apologize for the sake of keeping the peace? Or just forget about him?
GrayClouds Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Showing class and character is never a bad thing. Give your daughter an example of how to be the better person by showing class and character when you have behaved poorly is always a good thing. Go ahead and apologize, it matter less if he accepts it or not, what matters it what it says about you.
hopesndreams Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Don't waste anymore breath on him. No apology needed. He was being an azz. Next time, if this happens, DO NOT call him. NC. It's the only way.
Author now_what Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 When will this madness end?? This has nothing to do with the ex, but my dog bit my hand this morning and I had to go to urgent care. Of course, it's my right hand which I almost do EVERYTHING with, and I had a million things to do today because I'm going back to school in a week and wanted to get the house completely in order. The bite bruised the tendon on the side of my wrist by my thumb and is just so painful I could scream. Hard to drive, hard to type, hard to pick anything up - light or heavy. I commute 35 miles to work and I use a computer all day, so hopefully it will feel better tomorrow. I really need to stop whining, but it's just been one thing after the other - my daughter has something wrong with her stomach that they can't quite figure out - where is Dr. House lol, my ex filed the contempt charges, and my dog is incorrigible - where is Cesar Millan when you need him?
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