laylalayla Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I like teasing and joking as much as the next person. I am known by my friends to have a good sense of humor and i think teasing can and should be part of a good relationship. That is when it doesn't get too personal or hurtful, and this is my problem.....My BF is constantly teasing me, calling me things like Sasquatch, squatch, Swarthy Dyke, bargain basement Elvira, Bargain basement Cher. Trog, Tron, he makes comments about my hair, my eyebrows, my freckles..... I am NOT a big person other then the fact that I am tall 5'8". I am in great shape and get hit on often....as a matter of fact he worked his ass off to win me over, and even go out with him. He is also 5'8" and i usually dated tall men. Not because i'm against shorter men, just those are who usually asked me out. Also, without sounding like a cocky braggert, I am by no means an ugly person either.....I was a professional model @ one point and did alot of photo work, locally and some nationally. ....I only added this to say that I am not at all the lumbering beast that he is trying to make me feel like! And yes i do know that people cannot make us feel any certain way....but hearing it like brainwashing??? hmmm, even the strongest person would start losing their self-esteem. Thats not all he does, he teases about the "hot" women on the street, the hot women on tv. how every women he sees flirts with him...blah, blah, blah....I usually just think what an insecure idiot.. ass---- I did not consider myself to be insecure or sensitive but he is wrecking my confidence...I have talked to him about this and he says he will quit, then again there he goes with again with the same worn out "jokes" he is always trying to convince me that this is how ALL guys are... I've dated ALOT, and haven't encountered this yet?!!!! Am i missing something here...? or am i just turning a blind eye to the obvious RED FLAG?
marsle85 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Red flag. You are starting to feel uncomfortable about yourself- and in no way is this constructive in a relationship. You've talked to him about it, and he's continuing with the destructive comments. Red flag. Tell him if it doesn't stop, your tall, sexy, model ass is out the door.
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