USMCHokie Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Do you have physically attractive and/or good quality friends? And if so, do you think the quality of your friends affect your dating and relationships? I would objectively consider all my friends fairly attractive...both the guys and the girls...and I have realized that this may have had a negative impact on how I viewed myself and my "ability" to date...to be perfectly honest, I have always seen myself as the "ugly duckling" of all my social circles, so it may have been a major reason for all my insecurities about my looks while growing up...all my friends had their girlfriends while I just tagged along and played odd wheel...so this made me feel like I was "destined to be alone" while all my friends were hooking up... But at the same time, attractive people tend to have attractive friends, so my friends' friends who I meet are also generally attractive...this keeps an influx of attractive people coming into my life, even if only as platonic friends...which is always a good thing... Now what if you had generally unattractive friends...? I guess it creates a "king of the jungle/queen of the hive" mentality for the few attractive ones in the group...but wouldn't a group of unattractive people generally attract other unattractive types...? What are your thoughts on how your friends affect your dating life...?
marsle85 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 My friends are gorgeous, in the real-life-girl kinda way, not prissy-too-much-makeup kinda way. And just as I would say for your situation, I think having more attractive friends increases exposure to attractive potentials, thereby increasing chances to date attractive people. In my situation there is no ugly duckling because we're all so different- it's based on male preference: Mariya: tall, dark, sexy, foreign Kelsey: hipster, petite, natural Me: blonde, volumptuous, earthy Idk - I don't think a girl's friends is going to stop a guy from feeling her.
tigressA Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Objectively speaking, I don't have particularly physically attractive friends. It's been this way my entire life. I've been told that only a few of my friends could ever measure up to me or surpass me in regards to looks. Most of my friends who wouldn't be seen as generally physically attractive have one or two great features, like a thick, long mane of wavy hair, or bright, sparkling eyes, or a cute smile. None of my friends lack for great personality, though, and most of them have been dating longer than I have. They're all very fun and pleasant to be around.
carhill Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 No issue wrt dating, but my friends, male and female, run the gamut. I don't base friendships on appearances, so it follows that there will be variations in that parameter. Also, age is a factor IMO; at 50, such things as 'attractiveness' are perhaps viewed differently than when a few decades younger. I also don't involve friends in the dating process, so their appearance, attractiveness or success has no bearing on the potentials which I meet.
aroll32 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 My friends are for the most part good looking. There are a few of my friends that didn't get that gene, but all are unique people. Most of my best friends though have girlfriends, and like USMCHokie, have had to tag along with them being the 5th wheel maybe even 7th wheel. My closer friends now do not have girlfriends. This is because we are first year college students, and my friends with girlfriends are like married couples (kinda sucks). But I feel that most of my friends are attractive, and we have a variety of looks. Italian, Hispanic, Short and Tall, etc. For the most part, I don't see my friends as having much to do with my dating life. Most of the girls I date, I meet on my own, more or less. What I have realized is that I meet them by my own doing, not someone else's. I've only been "hooked up" with a girl once, and it wasn't even like I thought it was gonna be. It started with me starting a conversation with the girl that I didn't even know.
Woggle Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I have friends from all walks of life so men some are attractive, some are not and some are downright scary looking. I have a friend who is actually one of the nicest guys you could meet but he looks like Charles Manson.
shadowplay Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I don't base friendship on physical appearance (to any degree) and have little respect for anyone who does.
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