engravefeelthevoid Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Well this long story about the girl who got so close to perfection...she was SUPER HOT...and at the same time so strong and educated, humble, simple, fun, cautious just lovely....I swear to god that in the past 3 years she has encountered over 1000 attempts of guys trying to know her and get her to love them....am talking something like angelina Jolie...through it all...I was the only one who she trusted...alongside some few nerds who werent a threat... some big **** happened and we stopped talking...10 months later she contacts me but i feel for friendship...so I was thinking the other day...isn't there a 2% chance she had feelings for me ? i'm also a good looking guy, moreover I think she felt I had feelings for her...we'd see eachother daily for 2 months so this is my theory and I want input on this.... A hot girl that everyone wishes to know stands on point (X)....to the right...1000 guys are approaching her and pushing her to a relationship...point (Y)...to the left...one guy she trusts...point (Z)....naturally she will try to balance the forces by moving to point (Z)....she will feel better....this feeling will be associated with me...hence feelings will develop and she should develop feelings towards me....I've seen incidents of hot women falling for non-attractive guys in the same manner... Is this correct ? are there other parameters involved ? is there a way to make such a girl fall in love with a guy like me ? this thread is open for discussion
Johnny M Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I have no idea what you're talking about with points X, Y, Z, but if you don't make a move - and relatively - you will lose your chance. You have an advantage over these other guys (she trusts you), so do something about it.
Lakeside_runner Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Um... what the heck... I'll put int my 2c... You're coming from the assumption that the system should be balanced. You don't admit the possibility that the system due to all the interactions becomes more and more unbalanced and the behavior is chaotic/unpredictable etc, always accelerating and at some point stops obeying classical laws Yes normally you should be right, but your theory is based on some assumptions and what if your assumptions are true only in some circumstances (like in classical physics: low speeds or weak interactions etc.) Still - I wish you all the best!
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 you have a point...make a move... and yes it is chaos......the forces are clear I mean EVERYDAY shes like hollywood HOT ! im the only one who treated her like a person
bac Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Your thinking is a mechanism of defense called 'primitive idealizations'. Your brain defenses itself from anxiety created by fear of rejection. IRL a man expected to have a nerve to go and get what he wants. If he does not get it easily, he does it again and again untill he gets what he wants. there is the only way to figure out a girl which is to put some personal efforts towards your goals and go with flow. As for those 1000 guys, they mostly exist in your imagination, but in reality they are paralized by fear of rejection as much as you do.
threebyfate Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 It's more likely she's going to move to point (G) Get me the hell away from here. These guys are all nuts!
MichelleZB Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Dude, there's no science to it. She'll just like who she likes for the normal reasons people like anyone--she'll find someone attractive, think they're nice/fun/smart or whatever, and want to date them. The rules are the same regardless of hotness. If you want to find out if she can like you, hang around her, be smart/kind ect., then ask her out in a reasonably short frame of time. If she's interested, she'll say yes. That's all.
SadandConfusedWA Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I think that your theory doesn't make much sense at all. What if there are other guys she trusts at points U, W and V? She could easily move "there" to balance the system. You are making an assumption that you are the only guy at point Z and that there are no other "points" in the system. This may or may not be true.
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Well then how do I approach her ? the hottest girl in my place fell in love with a guy 3 years younger than her after she was my gf just bc she felt hes not a hreat to her....i just want to treat her like NO ONE did....something different
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 Approach her mind and feelings*
sally4sara Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 some big **** happened and we stopped talking...10 months later this thread is open for discussion I just love how the above is glossed over as though it holds no factor in the equation. Without knowing what the big **** is, why should anyone, including yourself, feel this girl trusts you?
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 I just love how the above is glossed over as though it holds no factor in the equation. Without knowing what the big **** is, why should anyone, including yourself, feel this girl trusts you? Good point...well I lied big time to her...then I ddnt push her or talk to her and gave her the time to heal...forget the past and remember the good things...SHE contacted me and lately we were on this big project she told me she trusts me bc im the only one who is working well and man enough for the job... 10 months...10 months I waited for her....i had incidents of breaking up then missing people...
sally4sara Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Good point...well I lied big time to her...then I ddnt push her or talk to her and gave her the time to heal...forget the past and remember the good things...SHE contacted me and lately we were on this big project she told me she trusts me bc im the only one who is working well and man enough for the job... 10 months...10 months I waited for her....i had incidents of breaking up then missing people... Then your original equation is false. Point Y is just another untrustworthy guy who tells big lies. The 10 months time you spent is time you spent living your life - not just waiting for her. She has no reason to see value in that 10 months as those 10 months were (for her) comprised of time spent much the same way it would be spent prior to knowing you or time spent if you didn't exist.
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 in your point of view...isn't there a 5 % chance this could work ? reverse psychology or anything ? keep in mind that both of us are from the same country (the only 2 people there) in a different country...she has something to trust...we have alot in common...ALOT...
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