IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) Ex girlfriend texts me asking if she can use my name to put down on her resume as her old boss from a company she got fired from because her old boss didn't like her. I never said yes or no. WTH kinda crap is that though? Is it a bad move to let her do that? I would like to get back together with her but right now is just not the right time. Does it sound like she is just using me or am I being paranoid about it? Edited March 20, 2010 by IamIam
deux ex machina Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Vandelay Industries? Hello, hello? Art Vandelay? ---------- Not a good idea. I wouldn't play along.
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 So what should I say? I don't think it's a good idea to use my name for those circumstances. That sound sufficient?
deux ex machina Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 So what should I say? I don't think it's a good idea to use my name for those circumstances. That sound sufficient? That's a great response, and really it's all that needs to be said. Just say it a such a way that she realizes any further requests along similar lines with you would be futile.
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 yeah. I'm gonna text her what i posted.
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 Sounds good enough: I don't think it's a good idea using my name for those circumstances. I'd like to help you out but using my name for a resume is a bad idea.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Sounds good enough: I don't think it's a good idea using my name for those circumstances. I'd like to help you out but using my name for a resume is a bad idea. Yep, perfect. You could even offer for her to list you as a character reference if that might help her (the REAL you, not posing as her boss).
CLC2008 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 What you suggested sounds pretty reasonable. Can your gf include other business contacts as a reference? Former coworkers, supervisors, other former bosses, etc. That is a tough spot to be in so I totally understand where you're coming from. I worked for an ad agency for close to 8 years and brought in one of my friends from high school and she was fired a couple years later. I was pissed at first but I know people get fired and she's working for a new company and doing really well.
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 Lol. I texted what I posted to her. She called me up. Convo was good at first and then she went into a tirade about some bad stuff happening to her. I'm a calm as hell person so I just listened for a bit. She was being pissy and I told her she was. She was like I'm having a bad day. Yeah like I can't tell. lol. Talking about something happening to her thats bad (I won't go into details). Told her it sounds like she is screwed and she went off saying I'm not screwed, blah blah blah. Told her don't take the crap out on me. Told her I was going to go lay down cuz I was tired and good luck at her job interview. How'd I do?
Lauriebell82 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Lol. I texted what I posted to her. She called me up. Convo was good at first and then she went into a tirade about some bad stuff happening to her. I'm a calm as hell person so I just listened for a bit. She was being pissy and I told her she was. She was like I'm having a bad day. Yeah like I can't tell. lol. Talking about something happening to her thats bad (I won't go into details). Told her it sounds like she is screwed and she went off saying I'm not screwed, blah blah blah. Told her don't take the crap out on me. Told her I was going to go lay down cuz I was tired and good luck at her job interview. How'd I do? And you want to get back together with this girl?
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 Yeah. She just has some really bad crap happening right now. It's understandable why she acts like that occasionally. I'll listen but good god damn when it turns into a wallowing bitchfest I'll throw the dagger in to cut it off.
alphamale Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Does it sound like she is just using me or am I being paranoid about it? shes using you, don't do anything for her
Lauriebell82 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Yeah. She just has some really bad crap happening right now. It's understandable why she acts like that occasionally. I'll listen but good god damn when it turns into a wallowing bitchfest I'll throw the dagger in to cut it off. I just find it odd why she choses to do that to you when your not even her boyfriend. No matter what is happening in her life it's not nice to take it out on other people, especially you. I wouldn't put up with it.
Author IamIam Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 Yeah that's why I cut the convo off when she started up.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Yeah that's why I cut the convo off when she started up. Good! Don't let yourself be her punching bag. I do think you handled the situation great. Good job.
Author IamIam Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 Lol. She's all pissed off now because I said she was screwed because of her situation. Not my fault she put herself in it. Playing the stupid quiet game with me now. She probably wanted a sympathetic ear but I'm not gonna listen to some stupid crap. I felt like I shouldn't have told her she was screwed but oh well, it was kinda harsh to say that. Oh well it's her loss.
Author IamIam Posted March 24, 2010 Author Posted March 24, 2010 (edited) Well I guess it's a damn deal done anyway now. Gave her a ring and no answer and then sent her a text saying I didn't mean she was screwed when she was talking about her situation. I did feel bad saying that to her. No reply. Figure if I try to send another text it'll just annoy the hell out of her. Ah well time to just move on. Edited March 24, 2010 by IamIam
deux ex machina Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 Well I guess it's a damn deal done anyway now. Gave her a ring and no answer and then sent her a text saying I didn't mean she was screwed when she was talking about her situation. I did feel bad saying that to her. No reply. Figure if I try to send another text it'll just annoy the hell out of her. Ah well time to just move on. When things end between two people, there never seems to be the perfect ending with unsaid words that are stuck in the throat spoken, unexpressed feelings given full expression, and all of those loose ends tied up beautifully. If only! But since it never really happens that way outside of fairy tales, we come to terms with the matter over time, over distance. In others words, there is no closure but one that we come to on our own. And at the end of the day, most likely it comes to us more than we come to it. Keeping everything in mind, you are making the right decision. Take care of you. All the best.
Author IamIam Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 I hear you Deux. I texted her This is retarded. To hell with it. She responded with Crybaby. lol. She has the mind of a child. To hell in a handbasket with her.
Author IamIam Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 I actually think I'm gonna text her saying. Crybaby? Haha. thats funny and all but I always prefer assclown.
deux ex machina Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 I actually think I'm gonna text her saying. Crybaby? Haha. thats funny and all but I always prefer assclown. I hope you didn't do that!
Author IamIam Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 Yup I did. lol. She texted Yep. thats what you are. Texted her heck yeah, ya know it. Makes for an exciting lifestyle! haha. And that things wil get better for her. She tried calling me after that but i told her i was busy helping a friend. Somehow I feel like I'm dealing with a child and not a woman. lol.
Tayla Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 some how I am sensing that you are gaining the one uppance and continue to annoy her. Stop texting her. You did your damage ..Be a wee bit more adult and simply cease. This banter back and forth is not healthy. I discourage this amongst two adults especially folks that carried a past that didnt pan out.
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