Eve Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 The dating marketplace is extremely competitive -- afterall this is the ultimate game of life. If you don't reproduce, you might as well be dead, evolutionarily speaking. Many women make a priority of LOOKING HOT over their JOB/SCHOOL. It is quite obvious that you don't. Your female counterparts are more competitive than they let you on. The women who end up with extremely wealthy men are extremely competitive, let alone HOT. Well that was a bit harsh! I am regarded as being not bad looking and would say that beauty does open doors. It is however annoying that wealthy men think that they should have access to good looking women because of their money. Quite a boring attitude to be faced with after a while. However, I would say that my hubby is the hottest man I have ever been out with.. a truly gorgeous looking man. He has not been to University but has always worked. At the end of the day 'competitiveness' does not work well in raising a family etc and so a multitude of other traits are sought by many women whether they are socially regarded for their beauty or not. I think it cheapens women to think that we are only as good as our looks. Maybe some women do think like this but not all. Anyway, I would feel sorry for them if they didnt have the love of their partner and just money. Anyway, having lots of money really isnt all its cracked up to be. All the other stuff is what really counts. Take care, Eve xx
Els Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 (edited) MadDriver: Doctors and lawyers do not necessarily equate to rich men, dear, and MOST filthy rich men are businessmen, not doctors and lawyers. Please address the issues I have raised in my quote about the practicality of your suggestion, if you can, or there is no point in going further. I'm currently with a doctor, so I know full well what I'm talking about; I did not date him because he was going to be a doctor, or any such nonsense, and frankly if he ever decides to change his profession I wouldn't think any less of him for it. He insists on paying for most dates, even though it is not a requirement of mine. Edited March 23, 2010 by Elswyth
Wallace1 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Anyway, having lots of money really isnt all its cracked up to be. All the other stuff is what really counts. QFT. Going back to the original topic, any woman who dates Doctors/Lawyers exclusively SOLELY because of their occupation isn't worth my time anyway. On a side note, I find it amazing that "CEO in a Business" is viewed as less prestigious in the linked study than things like Computer Support Specialist, Accountant, Purchasing Agent, etc, who would all by employed by the CEO of the company. I realize the media makes "businessmen" out to be bloodsucking leeches, but seriously?
torranceshipman Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 (edited) I'll bang anything over a 4. If/when it comes to a long-term mate, I think of myself and her at a cocktail party, and what my colleagues/friends/family would think of her there with me. Her job, in that case, would be pretty much meaningless. I would care more about 1) her looks 2) her social ability/poise/manners 3) probably her family background/wealth. If a girl is good looking she can pretty much do whatever she wants, within reason. She can't get stupid drunk, throw up in the punch bowl and pass out on the floor. But pretty much everything else LOL. Beautiful women are in a league of their own. Most guys won't even ask them what their job is because it really doesn't matter... their looks are who they are. I knew a girl in my medical/legal school (won't say which) who graduated, and then moved to Vegas to dance. She was the most beautiful woman I ever knew, couldn't go anywhere without men asking her out. Blonde, almost 6 feet tall, absolute 10 on every scale. (Super nice girl too, I mean the sweetest, most personable girl I've ever met.) Well she met a rich guy in Vegas within less than 3 months of moving there and now they're engaged. He's about 10 years older than she. She's mid-20s. My point is that she gave up being a professional to use her real assets. She was no dummy, and was smart enough to realize that no matter how smart she was, her beauty was what men wanted most. The difference between what you are saying and my social set is that all the guys in our group are extremely successful and all over average looks wise, and all very intelligent. All of them have beautiful, clever career girls as their girlfriends, and they're all happy couples. So the beauty part is true, but there is NO WAY they would hook up for a R with a girl just because she looks good. The capital, right or wrong, is in the girl being smart AND having beauty. Beauty alone is not nearly enough for these guys. As for your friend, stripping in Vegas and getting engaged to an old rich dude is not a smart move IMO. And for me, I also want to be with a man who is both intelligent and successful, and good looking (lol). But I have that in my boyfriend. I actually couldn't care less if he is wealthy or not (as it happens, he is, but if he lost it all tomorrow I'd love him just the same). The reason I can imagine growing old with him is because he is so smart, there are always great conversations to have, great advice, so much to learn from each other, a lot of mental stimulation and inspiration, etc...and while he is very cute, looks can fade as we all get old, but that deep level of intimacy and mental attraction will never go, and you end up always feeling attracted to and fulfilled by your mate. Contrast that to some hot but dumb guy or girl with no career and when they age a bit...you have nothing left, really... Edited March 23, 2010 by torranceshipman
gypsy_nicky Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 argh.. discuss.. And I'm curious, are there men who only date women who have certain titles or income levels? I think were talking about social status. Sad but women of today still do center dating habits around this. Men generally don't care as long as your attractive enough to them. THis is why you see a lot of successful single metropolitan women (aside from being average), have set their standards too high.
gypsy_nicky Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 I am in the medical field, thus I get asked out usually by people in the medical field, however, my exes were in the legal profession and thus I gravitate towards men in the legal profession. It has nothing to do with preference..but perhaps, familiarity. and proximity
gypsy_nicky Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Let me rephrase it then....come to think of it..I have yet to meet a really successful doctor or lawyer marry a youthful (read: 18-20 y.o) stripper-like beauty who is uneducated-but I have seen them used them for sex and amusement, though...but marry? You do not have much high regard for very intelligent, successful men, huh? Why do you patronize the beautiful?? Most beautiful women are in high demand and very rarely will be single, unless she wants to be. Men line up for her. Why are you single, seeing that your successful?
tami-chan Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 Why do you patronize the beautiful?? Most beautiful women are in high demand and very rarely will be single, unless she wants to be. Men line up for her. Why are you single, seeing that your successful? "Patronizing the beautiful" was not my intent. I think you have to follow the whole exchange between the other poster and I, to understand my perspective. I agree with you, though-wholeheartedly-beautiful women ARE in high demand. Why am I single? LOL!!!! I cannot believe I am going to respond to this question, but who cares ,this is the net! I am actually RECENTLY single and was advised by well meaning friends to take time out before going into another relationship...I am finding it difficult to hold out actually, seems pointless- because there are people available to have relationships with. Besides, I realized I like being a partner or somebody's SO.
SaintDragon Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 My only requirement is that she isn't the stay at home and talk with her friends all day knida woman. I like woman that have ambition no matter what their income is.
123BeachFan Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Doctors and attorneys don't necessarily make good catches. There's a higher tendency for ego issues and God complexes. I'm most attracted to an intelligent man, and a graduate or post-doctorate degree is a good sign that there's some intelligence there. With or without an advanced education, I can tell within 5 minutes of talking if we'll click or not. Not to feed the stereotypes, but I was once married to a Dr. who had multiple affairs with nurses. Then again I dated two other Dr's -- one who didn't seem to be intelligent enough to work his way out of a bathroom stall (how he ever made it out of med school was a mystery), and the other who was charming and humble, and completely refreshing. I dated two attorneys over the years -- one who was a mean as spit and who'd sell his sisters into slavery if there was enough profit motive, and another who was laid back and was agreeable to everything (to a fault).
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