laylalayla Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 My live-in boyfriend is constantly complaining that i don't want to do anything with him, that I do things with other people but not with him. I invite him to do things when my friends or family whenever we are invited as a couple to attend these functions. He just gets irritated and says, you do things with them but never with me. He never invites me to do a thing. Now, I have started going to the gym and have hired a personal trainer and he is mad, and starts fights, saying that he could train me by going for walks, etc. but everyday its the same thing. He goes to ride/train on his mountain bike and i get to the gym. I don't think I should always have to do the asking.....he never does... I live in mountain town and had 2 disks replaced in my neck last Jan., so I knew living with extreme athlete, might make for some problems. I absolutely discussed this with him before he moved in or before we even got serious dating....and he acted as if that would never be an issue for him. Now, its just the opposite. Each time we fight he brings up the topic of moving to warmer climate, that he wants to run around living in hostels and camping. I am an adventurous woman and have lived in extreme mountain activity communities. I love fishing and camping, but it's 28 degrees here now and his comments about how he just can't see me doing anything he wants to do and that he's compromised himself, to live here so he could be with me?!!!! He is not working but has some money in the bank which won't last...I feel like i am supporting his moutain bike dreams, but he is not being compassionate or supportive of me and my life, I am beyond frustrated as his judgemental comments and so misunderstood. I take great care of my body and I am constantly being told by him that I'm vain, that he just cant see a priss like me living the lifestyle he dreams of...I tell him he just doesn't know me well enough to make that judgement. but it goes on and on. I've tried compromising saying i would go for walks, hiking etc. but no invites. just the same complaining...yada yada yada, blah blah blah....ad infinitum... I'm feeling like kicking him outta here!!! HELP!!! pLEASE!
Jeff1962 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Let him go to live his own lifestyle on his own.
Author laylalayla Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 I think that is probably going to happen.... hopefully sooner than later. thanks for the response
Lauriebell82 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 My live-in boyfriend is constantly complaining that i don't want to do anything with him, that I do things with other people but not with him. I invite him to do things when my friends or family whenever we are invited as a couple to attend these functions. He just gets irritated and says, you do things with them but never with me. He never invites me to do a thing. Now, I have started going to the gym and have hired a personal trainer and he is mad, and starts fights, saying that he could train me by going for walks, etc. but everyday its the same thing. He goes to ride/train on his mountain bike and i get to the gym. I don't think I should always have to do the asking.....he never does... I live in mountain town and had 2 disks replaced in my neck last Jan., so I knew living with extreme athlete, might make for some problems. I absolutely discussed this with him before he moved in or before we even got serious dating....and he acted as if that would never be an issue for him. Now, its just the opposite. Each time we fight he brings up the topic of moving to warmer climate, that he wants to run around living in hostels and camping. I am an adventurous woman and have lived in extreme mountain activity communities. I love fishing and camping, but it's 28 degrees here now and his comments about how he just can't see me doing anything he wants to do and that he's compromised himself, to live here so he could be with me?!!!! He is not working but has some money in the bank which won't last...I feel like i am supporting his moutain bike dreams, but he is not being compassionate or supportive of me and my life, I am beyond frustrated as his judgemental comments and so misunderstood. I take great care of my body and I am constantly being told by him that I'm vain, that he just cant see a priss like me living the lifestyle he dreams of...I tell him he just doesn't know me well enough to make that judgement. but it goes on and on. I've tried compromising saying i would go for walks, hiking etc. but no invites. just the same complaining...yada yada yada, blah blah blah....ad infinitum... I'm feeling like kicking him outta here!!! HELP!!! pLEASE! Ask him why he is complaining that you never do anything together but never invites you to come along with him? If he doesn't have a good answer-or an answer at all-then it might just be you speaking to a wall. If that's the case then the relationship is in trouble.
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