girl18 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I'm 25 yr old female. Ok so I have been single for about 2 months. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years off and on because i was not in love with him anymore and he was a major mama's boy, 30 living at home, no ambition, needy, sensitive, i could go on and on....so i met this guy online and we have gone on 4 dates so far. No sex just kissing so far. I like him and his personality but he has crazy facial hair on his face. It was trimmed in his online photos but when I saw him I was in shock. I know this sounds stupid but I need to be physically attracted to the person and I almost want to ask him to shave it off but I don't want to be rude. He lives in a house with 2 roommates which is a step up from my last relationship. He has a good job. His parents are still together and he has a good relationship with his family. He drives a crappy old car but then tells me he loves going on road trips and blowing a thousand bucks in a weekend to have a good time. Wouldn't he want to save money to buy a nicer car? I'm not a gold digger by any means but I have my **** together and plenty of savings in the bank and I just don't understand this guy. He is super sweet and I have a great time when I'm with him. so I'm kinda torn. Personality wise, he is the type of guy I should be with but I dont know what to do. Oh and to make matters worse, I have herpes that I contracted from a cheating ex boyfriend and I met this guy on an online dating site for ppl with STDS (he has it too) so its hard enough for me to date someone and feel comfortable. Any advice would be MUCH appreciated! thanks guys
Hazyhead Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I'm 25 yr old female. Ok so I have been single for about 2 months. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years off and on because i was not in love with him anymore and he was a major mama's boy, 30 living at home, no ambition, needy, sensitive, i could go on and on....so i met this guy online and we have gone on 4 dates so far. No sex just kissing so far. I like him and his personality but he has crazy facial hair on his face. It was trimmed in his online photos but when I saw him I was in shock. I know this sounds stupid but I need to be physically attracted to the person and I almost want to ask him to shave it off but I don't want to be rude. He lives in a house with 2 roommates which is a step up from my last relationship. He has a good job. His parents are still together and he has a good relationship with his family. He drives a crappy old car but then tells me he loves going on road trips and blowing a thousand bucks in a weekend to have a good time. Wouldn't he want to save money to buy a nicer car? I'm not a gold digger by any means but I have my **** together and plenty of savings in the bank and I just don't understand this guy. He is super sweet and I have a great time when I'm with him. so I'm kinda torn. Personality wise, he is the type of guy I should be with but I dont know what to do. Oh and to make matters worse, I have herpes that I contracted from a cheating ex boyfriend and I met this guy on an online dating site for ppl with STDS (he has it too) so its hard enough for me to date someone and feel comfortable. Any advice would be MUCH appreciated! thanks guys Sheesh! I don't really know where to start... my intitial reaction was that you are making more obstacles than there needs to be, with the car and stuff. Prioritise. If he's worth dating then do it. He sounds worth a shot to me in that you get on and enjoy his company... plus the herpes thing... Go for it. Look past the facial hair for now if you can, and then if it continues to bother you bring it up nicely. Go out and have some
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I think you should ask him to shave the facial hair. After four dates you should be familiar enough with one another (read: "no longer just experimental") to where you can express a preference/interest in his not having facial hair. Furthermore, facial hair isn't that big a deal to most. Sometimes guy just need somebody to give them a reason to do something different before they'll bother to care about it at all. (just like it helps to have two or three people with you when you're getting a pizza, in order to let their likes and dislikes help narrow down the various topping choices) Beyond that, his "weekend trips" might be a means of just getting through single life, with something to motivate him from one week to the next. Introduce a sincere and interested female companion into his world, and he might just evolve to have different priorities. After four dates, the fact that you're still interested, shows that he has potential. Express yourself on the facial hair for starters.
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