Ilovehim Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I'm curious what are some of the qualities that men and women REALLY want in a partner... I would have to say : PHYSICALLY: around 5'8 to 6'2..i prefer them olive skinned, and nice lips... but honestly it's the personality that attracts me to a man...every guy I have liked has been different but as long as we have that chemistry & connection and you're a good, hard-working MAN who treats me right, we're good. I like honest, mature, grown, intelligent guys...overall someone who is a man and is confident with himself and who he is, no matter what that is. Being yourself and loving yourself (as long as you're a good person) is very attractive to me! What about you guys?
marsle85 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Obviously I'm not going to say the physical doesn't matter to me. It does, and it can be a dealbreaker. But before I can even consider appearances, if he is not intelligent I cannot move forward. Furthermore, personality traits: witty introspective confident- in himself, whatever, whoever he is. loving- capable of showing, needing, expecting love. If those are there- and physical is so hard, because so much of a person's attraction is dependent on the chemistry. But at face value? physical: tall wide-shoulders big hands
bananaboat11 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 What attracts me to a woman? I can't describe it... but it's the way she carries herself... her face... her eyes... her high cheek bones... her dark, wavy hair... her smile... She has to be articulate and able to carry a conversation. Make eye contact. Open to new experiences at LEAST once. Intelligent with some level of an education... I'd prefer someone to my level of education... primarily because in academia... you love what you study.. it becomes a primary interest, thus primary conversation material... heh. I want someone who is into fitness as I prefer health of mind & body... someone between 5' - 6' (I'm 6'1")... and must have a sense of humor and love to laugh. Someone who enjoys going for walks/hikes and spending time outdoors, too. Not a prissy little bitch who enjoys shopping 24/7 and partying.... who can't be single for longer than a month (ie, my ex girlfriend)... There must be an emotional connection... an intellectual connection... and a chemical connection...
bananaboat11 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Obviously I'm not going to say the physical doesn't matter to me. It does, and it can be a dealbreaker. But before I can even consider appearances, if he is not intelligent I cannot move forward. Furthermore, personality traits: witty introspective confident- in himself, whatever, whoever he is. loving- capable of showing, needing, expecting love. If those are there- and physical is so hard, because so much of a person's attraction is dependent on the chemistry. But at face value? physical: tall wide-shoulders big hands I have big hands... but I'm curious... why big hands? Is it because you believe he'll have a larger penis? In most scientific studies by journals of urology... penis size and hand size have 0 statistical correlation.
mrt336 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Personality wise, clever and playful. A girl that can outwit her peers is very attractive to me. NICE. Girls who are legitimately nice and caring are awesome. Motivation is very important as well. Physically, I usually prefer smaller built girls, 5'-5'8" I don't think I'd ever date a girl as tall as I am unless she asked me out. I have no reasoning for it. I very much like ladies with hips and full lips. I LOVE long, healthy hair, very sexy. Nice smile of course. Aside from that, nothing specifically. I've never really cared about bust size.
mrt336 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I have big hands... but I'm curious... why big hands? Is it because you believe he'll have a larger penis? In most scientific studies by journals of urology... penis size and hand size have 0 statistical correlation. Girls just like big hands, I've heard it a lot. Big hands are masculine and safe. I've heard a lot of ladies talk about forearms as well
marsle85 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Girls just like big hands, I've heard it a lot. Big hands are masculine and safe. I've heard a lot of ladies talk about forearms as well Haha, yeah my preference has nothing to do with penis size. Actually, the only correlation to penis size is the general size of the man himself. You could say the same for women. Big hands? Because when he holds my hand, I feel like mine disappears. Or if he grasps your chin with his hand? It makes me feel small and vulnerable and soft and sweet. I don't know. Strange right? And protected I guess in a way too. My dad has big hands and he's my best friend. Safety I guess is something there.
zebracolors Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 There may have already been a topic similar to this one but I can't remember where it was. But I'll participate. I'm a small woman, only 5'3. Like many women I like taller guys, I don't know, 5'8 and over? Though its not like I wouldn't go out with anyone shorter. Also I like it when they have a big physique if that makes sense, but not really like a staunch body builder type, those guys don't do anything for me. More like the kind of physique it takes to be a club doorman, even if they have a little bit of a gut. Those small guys, don't care how toned they are, do nothing for me. Obviously I also echo that confidence in himself is very attractive. Been proven that goes both ways. And I also would hope we have a chemical, emotional, and intellectual connection. But I also like to be able to feel okay being silly around him, because I enjoy making him laugh, it helps to ease anxiety. My one and only turn off deal breaker would, of course, be smoking.
Chitowngirl Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Girls just like big hands, I've heard it a lot. Big hands are masculine and safe. I've heard a lot of ladies talk about forearms as well Muscular forearms are SO hot..I seriously would love to hump one some day but I know that is very weird and I'd never tell that to my bf.."later can I hump your forearm sweety?":sick:
marsle85 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Not weird Chitown-- haha. I have the desire to run my body anywhere I can, on a guy.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Two requisites for me: She must be attractive and easy. If those are met then everything else is icing on the cake.
Author Ilovehim Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 why easy??? easy girls should be a dealbreaker for guys... "can't turn a hoe into a housewife, hoes dont act right" i like masculine guys who at the same time have an emotional side..i don't like someone who is "too independent" and has this "i can either take you or leave you attitude".. of course i want the man to be independent and NOT clingy, but i also want him to want me, to need me... like there has to be a balance of the two...but as i said there is no guide lines of how to get to someone's heart..it's all about connection, chemistry, attraction & respect. The man that I already have these things with should be loyal, feels the same way towards me, and committed.
lofi_tokyo Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Personality wise I like guys that are flirtatious, respectful to elders, laid back (even to the point of being "lazy"), and able to carry a conversation with me. He doesn't have to have the same interests as me (for instance I love rock climbing and ultimate frisbee), but he needs to respect what I like to do with my time. Physically I prefer guys with a tall, athletic build (though not TOO muscular)... and I'm a sucker for dark features (hair/eyes). Bottom line is I need to date a guy that is very secure and at peace with himself. If he's got that I'm happy. **Edit: Oh and a sense of self-deprecating humour and a love of beer is a nice touch.
bac Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 an attractive man great at sex sincere, open and personal wants me for sex let me be myself and let me do what i want
tkgirl Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I'm curious what are some of the qualities that men and women REALLY want in a partner... I would have to say : PHYSICALLY: around 5'8 to 6'2..i prefer them olive skinned, and nice lips... but honestly it's the personality that attracts me to a man...every guy I have liked has been different but as long as we have that chemistry & connection and you're a good, hard-working MAN who treats me right, we're good. I like honest, mature, grown, intelligent guys...overall someone who is a man and is confident with himself and who he is, no matter what that is. Being yourself and loving yourself (as long as you're a good person) is very attractive to me! What about you guys? I'm with ya girl! this is probably number one on my list now... a guy who is confident, knows who he is and what he wants (me!) The last guy I fell for had all these great qualities that I was really attracted to... but had the maturity of a little boy! did not know what he wanted AT ALL when it came to our relationship... it really F'd with my head... and I started questioning everthing I used to be attracted to...
sumdude Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 (edited) Honest, decent, loyal and compassionate. Attractive and sexy without being tawdry. Intelligent and quick witted. I hate having to make all the conversation happen. Has to have her own passions in life beyond what's on TV and People magazine. Artistic at some level. Did I say passionate already? A little bit of a wild child. Can take care of herself for the most part. If we end up together there will be times I might not be there. The right one will make me want to be an even better man. Edited March 21, 2010 by sumdude
marsle85 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Has to have her own passions in life beyond what's on TV and People magazine. Like owning a Bump-it?
OndaChin Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I love a woman with a flat, smooth & featureless chin... Very sexy!! (enough said)
Lucy_b Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 Average looking I like em rough around the edges Loving but not clingy Loyal Compassionate Hard working Confident Family orientated Strong body and mind Yeah oh and a nice bum
gypsy_nicky Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 a girl that has the spitting personality of my mother.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I hope you said that in a non-Oedipus complex way Dude. Obviously I'm not going to say the physical doesn't matter to me. It does, and it can be a dealbreaker. But before I can even consider appearances, if he is not intelligent I cannot move forward. Furthermore, personality traits: witty introspective confident- in himself, whatever, whoever he is. loving- capable of showing, needing, expecting love. If those are there- and physical is so hard, because so much of a person's attraction is dependent on the chemistry. But at face value? physical: tall wide-shoulders big hands Those are all the things I like as well mentally and physicaly. Although, physical apperance might be more debatable for me. While I like wide-shoulders and big hands on a man, I have dated all types and been attracted to men I might not have thought I would be.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 why easy??? easy girls should be a dealbreaker for guys... Right, because all guys want exactly the same thing. yeesh
Green Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 My gf looks like a victoria's secret model... so I guess thats the look I go for http://www.gossipcenter.com/files//celeb-gossip/images/photos/victoria-secret-hollywood-star.jpg I also enjoy a girl with a great voice who loves to sing, laugh and joke around.
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