Author marsle85 Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 After following your thread I beleive you're over reacting/over thinking this. I'm a guy that loves to cook, and bringing people into that environment and having them enjoy what I prepare is fun and rewarding. You're very concerned about the sex thing, but you're the one in control in that regard. Take things as far as you're comfortable taking thins, and if things are headed too far, that's when u say "I'm having a great time, but not ready to do X, yet." If the dude freaks out, you shouldn't see him anymore in my opinion. I've always let the women I've been with set the speed of when we get to sex. When I like the woman and am really connecting, it's worth the wait. Screw the 3 date rule - you do what you feel is right and what you're comfortable with. Well, I love being cooked for. And I love your post. So - haha, if things don't work out with this guy... haha, all kidding aside. Thanks for your input.
Mary3 Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Booty Call RARELY involves them taking out pots and pans , chopping vegetables and setting the table. This man likes you. Likes you enough to prepare a nice dinner. If there were any doubt that this guy was a loser or a user , this one is soo far removed from that. Enjoy the meal. His company. Its actually a compliment that he will go to all this trouble. . He likes you alot. Most Booty Calls only involve him dialing your number and removing his pants later..
DustySaltus Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 As long as we're using formulas Time + Nice Gestures = Expectations Expectations + Physical Activity = Green Light Expectations - Physical Activity = Blue Balls
silic0ntoad Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 As long as we're using formulas Time + Nice Gestures = Expectations Expectations + Physical Activity = Green Light Expectations - Physical Activity = Blue Balls QFT. Don't lead him on. Make your expectations known.
Rearden Metal Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 marsle85- I actually used this thread as substance during my counseling session this week We were talking about communication and I used this as an example. FWIW, my counselor seemed to think that direct communication of your boundaries (should it come up) would be best, rather than to stage other ways NOT to deal with the problem. Cheers!
Author marsle85 Posted March 23, 2010 Author Posted March 23, 2010 marsle85- I actually used this thread as substance during my counseling session this week We were talking about communication and I used this as an example. FWIW, my counselor seemed to think that direct communication of your boundaries (should it come up) would be best, rather than to stage other ways NOT to deal with the problem. Cheers! Aw I'm so glad! Well tonight's the night...so we shall seeeeeee! He just texted asking what kind of wine I wanted. Ahhhhh. :)
phineas Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Booty Call RARELY involves them taking out pots and pans , chopping vegetables and setting the table. This man likes you. Likes you enough to prepare a nice dinner. If there were any doubt that this guy was a loser or a user , this one is soo far removed from that. Enjoy the meal. His company. Its actually a compliment that he will go to all this trouble. . He likes you alot. Most Booty Calls only involve him dialing your number and removing his pants later.. I've been known to cook dinner for a woman I like alot & OMG i've wanted to have sex with her also.
DustySaltus Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I've been known to cook dinner for a woman I like alot & OMG i've wanted to have sex with her also. Easy Mac doesn't count.
phineas Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Easy Mac doesn't count. but I put cut up hot dogs in it & break out the Boones Farm.
CrissyQ Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 I'm going on a date with a guy for the fourth time next week. Last time we were together he mentioned loving to cook. He suggested cooking for me, and I accepted. I'm assuming the next time we're together this is going to be his plan. After talking to a few people, everyone seems to be like "he wants to hook up!" We've only made out, and I probably wouldn't pass that point at his house. What do you think? I'm interested in hearing from men and women who have been here, done that, etc. What's the scoop normally? How do I not overstay my welcome? Secondly, if his roommates are there- what's a good entrance? What are solid conversation topics? You should be flattered I think the most romantic thing a guy could do for a women is cook for her. :love:
Kamille Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Aw I'm so glad! Well tonight's the night...so we shall seeeeeee! He just texted asking what kind of wine I wanted. Ahhhhh. :) Have fun. Little bit of advice, if you don't intend to have sex with him, stay out of his bedroom. That would be sending him mixed signals and would be unfair to the both of you (of course he would feel the need to make a move and you would feel the need to push him away).
DustySaltus Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Have fun. Little bit of advice, if you don't intend to have sex with him, stay out of his bedroom. That would be sending him mixed signals and would be unfair to the both of you (of course he would feel the need to make a move and you would feel the need to push him away). Something is definetly going to go down. Whether it's awkwardness or otherwise, we shall see.......good luck.
Trimmer Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 So... You suppose she's still there, two days later?
melodymatters Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 I believe she started another thread post date, where she shared that they made out half naked, but she didn't want to go all of the way because she was on her period. Of course our lovely new male contingent called her a tease and said she should have blown him:sick: If I'm confusing orginal posters, mea culpa !
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