gypsy_nicky Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 It's hard for me to relate, cause when I break up with a girl, it usually takes me a week tops to get over her, even if we've been together for some time. All I can say is that you need to step back and comprehend two basic concepts: 1) you only live once, and life is short - there's no point in this protracted emotional self-flagellation that you seem to be engaged in; and 2) the girl you were with probably wasn't that special anyway (in fact, if your description of the way she broke up with you is accurate, she is a total c*nt). internet warrior
lora22 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) And, just fyi, I'm currently reading a lot of research and essays on resiliency and survival and so on, so that is where I'm coming from. These things are definitely easier for some than they are for others. I can't believe this forum "Move on move on move on... Use your will power... just get over it... control all your thoughts" If youve had any life experiences its not that easy and the grieving process (the process that happens when you lose something) is different for everyone one... Study that (those of you who think its a science) For some people it is that easy. For some people it is not that easy. As I already stated. When you say "If you've had any life experiences it's not that easy" (edited for grammar), what you really should be stating is, "In my life experience, it is not that easy, for me." And, actually, it is scientific; just as an example there is a "resiliency gene." What I do is NEVER stop living my life Refuse to let it stop me from growing and living and accept that I am still grieving something amazing and it will probably be with me in some ways until the day I die or maybe longer I think keep doing what your doing and eventually your grief process will work itself out mine has in some ways but not in others yet Its okay to hurt and to miss someone One day you will move on...On your own without thinking about it or analyzing it It will happen when you are ready For now let it be accept your pain as part of you and Keep living your life OP is already living his life. This is one piece of advice. ONE. From ONE person's perspective. It may work for the OP, and it may not. But you are not omniscient, and your advice is not the correct perspective; IT IS ONLY ONE POINT OF VIEW AND ONE OPINION. It has no more weight than anyone else's opinion. Edited March 20, 2010 by lora22
confused and broken Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 For some people it is that easy. For some people it is not that easy. As I already stated. When you say "If you've had any life experiences it's not that easy" (edited for grammar), what you really should be stating is, "In my life experience, it is not that easy, for me." And, actually, it is scientific; just as an example there is a "resiliency gene." OP is already living his life. This is one piece of advice. ONE. From ONE person's perspective. It may work for the OP, and it may not. But you are not omniscient, and your advice is not the correct perspective; IT IS ONLY ONE POINT OF VIEW AND ONE OPINION. It has no more weight than anyone else's opinion. I also said the grieving process is different for everyone and I did not say my opinion was right so no need to get all wound up I was just found it surprising that after OP says he has will power and the feelings are not just disappearing... the comment he gets is to control his mind/feelings... Anyways I didn't say he wasn't living his life I got that he was I said keep living your life (ie: don't give up) And pointing out that not putting apostrophes into my writing is grammatically incorrect--that's a low blow Honestly I wasn't trying to criticize anyone until now.. I was simply surprised usually you get more support than he was getting (in my experience)
lora22 Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 I also said the grieving process is different for everyone and I did not say my opinion was right so no need to get all wound up I was just found it surprising that after OP says he has will power and the feelings are not just disappearing... the comment he gets is to control his mind/feelings... Anyways I didn't say he wasn't living his life I got that he was I said keep living your life (ie: don't give up) And pointing out that not putting apostrophes into my writing is grammatically incorrect--that's a low blow Honestly I wasn't trying to criticize anyone until now.. I was simply surprised usually you get more support than he was getting (in my experience) If anyone here seems less 'supportive', it's probably because the OP posted in dating, not breaking up or coping - most people in those forums have a much different take on things. Also, he said he didn't want sympathy or a pity party, so if you combine those two things, you end up with responses like in this thread.
Author StuckInLimbo Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 If anyone here seems less 'supportive', it's probably because the OP posted in dating, not breaking up or coping - most people in those forums have a much different take on things. Also, he said he didn't want sympathy or a pity party, so if you combine those two things, you end up with responses like in this thread. Ok you two, stop fighting in my thread I appreciate both of you ideas. Any other suggestions?
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