utzelf Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 My first boyfriend of 3 years dumped me 3 days ago. We're both 18. After Christmas he seemed confused about the relationship, every time I tried talking to him about it over the phone I would get a "I don't know" or silence after EACH question about it. Meanwhile in person we always hung out with each other, had a great time and nothing seemed wrong like at all. We had a brief breakup in February. I was very upset I called him a lot and talked to him texted him etc. he eventually got back together with me before valentines day. 3 days ago we hung out,ate watched tv and slept together. When it was time for him to leave my house he seemed very upset so I asked him what's wrong? He just said "we're a weird couple" (I figured he didn't want to leave and wanted to spend more time together so I toke the train ride to his house with him) He then told me he didn't want the relationship anymore. I was upset and told him I won't call or contact him this time and that I agree with the breakup. He promised me if ever regrets anything I would be the first to know and that he will make sure I get my delivery (I order things online and have them shipped to his house all the time). That's the last thing I told him before I left his house. As soon as I got home I packed his ipod& a picture of us I didn't want anymore and express mailed it to him (so he definitely received it by now) I haven't contacted him on the phone yet. I tracked my package and it was delivered to his house yesterday. He hasn't called me about it or anything (Which I find weird). Should I sit back and keep waiting? My mom told me I was too available to him, called too much, hung out too much and never gave him space so he doesn't appreciate me. What should I do? I know right now since the weather is nice he's probably playing handball all day and doesn't care that I haven't called him because he's busy playing . Should I keep waiting for him to contact me and at least tell me that my delivery arrived? What should I do? I have a gut feeling that continuing to leave him alone and wait for him to contact me first will do me good in trying to get him back, but I'm also scared he might move on.
annxxdisaster Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Go with your gut, but not because it's going to get him to miss you or contact you or whatever. He may move on, he may not. Who knows. But you are so young still and the door to a whole new world is about to be opened to you. You'll be so surprised in, heck, even a year how much you have changed. Take this opportunity and explore other people...gain new experiences. Those are worth more than hanging on to an old ex-boyfriend.
Author utzelf Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 Thanks for the post. It's just hard waking up every morning and rolling over to my cellphone and realizing that he has not contacted me at all about the packages, about me or ANYTHING. Every morning I just feel so miserable, especially when its nice and sunny out. I just want to go back to sleep and not wake up. Ever. But sadly I do wake up. I wake up very confused. Sometimes when I'm busy showering or doing something playing game, tv or w/e i feel happy (a little) I'm just like "He'll call me back he knows its his loss, he backed away from ME again and I'm not nagging him this time... NOPE." I will never know if he misses me or not unless I actually give him space for once. I believe he should because I know i was a great girlfriend, i was always there for him, thoughtful (bought him 1 small thing every time i went shopping), cooked once or twice, listened, made him feel better when he missed school, gave him a guitar for his birthday the whole 9 effin yards. (Hindsight- never gave him 100% space in fear of losing him probably 75% at most, but guess its all wasted efforts since he left me) I seriously never saw this coming. Never saw this coming because when I first met him I didn't like him AT ALL, I was very hard with him. And sometimes I feel mopey so I can't get my work done . The amount of schoolwork that has piled up on me is ridicoulous. Then I wonder what he's doing and start to cry and sleep. Anyhow I'll keep updating (great relief). I guess i still feel horrible because its only day 5.
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