TG4MJ Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Almost 5 weeks ago a woman I was dating and thought the world of decided to totally Pearl Harbor my heart by deciding out of no where that we should just be friends. Never been a big fan of the friend zone for personal reasons, so needless to say I was crushed. For almost 4 weeks straight, I responded the way I usually do when heartbroken, by getting drunk, loaded, wreckless, self destructive, and not really giving a fly fornication about anyone or anything around me. This was all exasterbated by a death in the family the weekend following her doing this to me. When I'm in that mode it's tricky dealing with me, and the most random things finally snap me out of it. The only thing that finally made me slow my role was a combination of a recent arrest and the death of Corey Haim (Though it's not normally my thing I'd been over doing it with Xanax) After all of this, she out of nowhere decided to reach out to me, though I don't really know what she wants. Quite frankly, I have no idea what to do. I still feel a bit vunerable to be totally honest. I don't want to be a jerk and push her away, but at the same time I don't really feel like repeating this little cycle again any time soon. Was pretty bad this time, don't really wanna think of how bad it would get if she did anything to hurt me again. Anyone else ever been in this kind of bind ?
tylerdurden Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Has she tried to call you?if so has she said anything on the voicemail? My advice would be not to answer..Im in the same boat as you my friends, its been 6 weeks for me, she reached out to me but it was only to throw me breadcrumbs, make sure to know what she wants before responding. Its a tough place to be
Weird Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 My advice is to not waste your time replying and giving her this supposed "friendship" as unless you just lose all feelings it won't work. Even if you do lose all feelings I still think it makes no sense because why be friends with an ex when it will go nowhere? First it feels weird then second, if one/both parties get involved with others the "friendship" will usually die. If she keeps contacting you then you could straight up say to her unless she is open to maybe trying things out again that you do not need her in your life and to leave you alone. Given that you said you don't want her to break your heart again it seems you do not want that so really, I'd just tell her to leave you be. I'd say 92% of the time a dumper says they want to be friends it is simply to try and get the ego boost of knowing the other person will still keep them in their lives and it is purely for selfish reasons why they want that friendship.
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