rebeccajones Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I'm a little embarrassed at my anxiety over my bf's absence of a few days. My mind thinks negatively. I get all these "fear" feelings and get them out on here or express to friends, family. I did talk to my bf and things were good, we did not talk about serious issues just about our time apart. He apologized because he knew I may have been a little concerned since he was only going to be gone a day but then stayed away longer. Now I know I do need to work on myself and the fears I get not sure how but may go to the bookstore and look. Thanks to those who helped me out! I hope to learn from it. I hope to help others here too.
Ms. Joolie Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 That's great! Glad to hear things are o.k.! Don't be embarrassed, I mean that's fantastic that you reached out for help on how to react to the situation. Good for you! I also get crazy, insecure thoughts in my head. Just last night I started depressing myself on thoughts about my relationship. I do a really, really good job at that. I can think the worst, even accepting it like it's already over. LOL But that's when I need to call him and just say hi. Last night he called me first and we (as usual) made our weekend plans. It's great, and I feel all nice and secure again. Part of MY problem is that I have a hard time seeing the long term picture of my relationship with my SO, even though he constantly reassures me of future things. (Like I have his house key, we talked of getting away in April, and other things he says) But my point is..... We just can't let ourselves react to our insecurities. Sure we have them. But it's very important to secure ourselves with positive thoughts and positive actions. It's the positive thoughts/actions that we want to invest in, not the negative ones. So in other words, instead of worrying ourselves paranoid over something and doing nothing, we must start thinking of what we can do to secure the situation and then do it. We need to always invest in the relationship with positive thoughts and actions, because that creates the future.
Author rebeccajones Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 Sounds like things are going well for you two and hope they continue to go smoothly! I need to be more positive or focus more on the positive even when I get insecure. There are alot of positives things about him being away so I should think of that too! Thanks
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