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[lsb]

I just want to write. I had a horrible time with my break up that happened last year. In two months I will hit the year mark of when it all started. But it felt much, much longer because he dragged out the break-up. He kept contacting me, even as recently as last week. I said some rather mean things to him, but I felt like he would not stop. And now maybe he will. But I do not know. I hate this feeling of it not feeling really dead. I know it is. But, it still doesn't feel that way. Like, I will still miss him sometimes and want to be with him. Does anyone have any idea what I should do? Should I apologize and talk to him? Or let it alone?

[bubbles5]

first of all do u still love ur ex?Secondly if u dont feel the same then whats the point.He is contacting u again n again cos he cant handle emotional torment so he is torchering u also.If u dont feel anything for this guy or one who has hurt u how can u go bak?And even if u go bak would u feel same?its quite obvious when u r hurt u will hurt a person who has hurted u.So its nothing to b ashamed of. Anyways if u still feel the same for him then go bak n talk to him.Just by arguing things wont get solved.

[supersub]

I just want to write. I had a horrible time with my break up that happened last year. In two months I will hit the year mark of when it all started. But it felt much, much longer because he dragged out the break-up. He kept contacting me, even as recently as last week. I said some rather mean things to him, but I felt like he would not stop. And now maybe he will. But I do not know. I hate this feeling of it not feeling really dead. I know it is. But, it still doesn't feel that way. Like, I will still miss him sometimes and want to be with him. Does anyone have any idea what I should do? Should I apologize and talk to him? Or let it alone?

 

In the aftermath most couples have a month or so of going back and forth, i.e Contact, no contact etc. You guys haven't really had time to heal from the split because of the contact for the past year. You cannot have a rational discussion when one or both parties are still mad at each other. What you need to do is really try to take a step away from it for maybe a month or so and then see how you feel. You will know when you are ready to discuss the situation because your emotions won't be running so high. I hope this helps.