jinx55 Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I met this girl about 6 months ago. We never officially dated but we were definitely more than just friends and there was an emotional connection between us (I won't go into details but we did things together and she slept at my place several times). One day I heard from her friend that she liked one of my friends. I asked her about it she said no. So a few weeks later goes by and I find out shes been talking to him online almost everyday and I ask her about it and she says there just friends. At this point my gut instinct tells me otherwise that she probably likes him. But I said to myself she wouldn't act on it. The things I am upset about is.... #1 I found out this past tuesday she went to his room and watched a movie with him and they made out. She lied to me about her not liking him or ever doing anything with him. #2 After I asked her about if she was planning on doing it again she said "I dont know" Now I know we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend offically but there was a strong connection between us we hung out literally everyday. I said to her if u want to stop doing this and just be single or date someone else it would suck but I could deal with it and still be her friend... but I said to her just not my friends it would not be cool if you did that. Well she did it. My question is, do I have any right to be upset here or am I out of line? Is she out of line for what she did? Im lost.
ADF Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Sure, you should be upset. This woman clearly isn't interested in you anymore, but won't tell you that outright. Like so many people in this world, she is all about making things as easy as possible on herself. She'd rather leave you hanging than risk a difficult conversation. She's a coward and a liar. Don't be her friend. Be done with her already.
USMCHokie Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 You allowed yourself to be her "good friend" for 6 months...I don't think she ever saw you as anything more than that...and now she's found a guy who lights the fire in her loins... As ADF has said, don't be her friend...your "emotional connection" is not quite as strong as you think it is...and she doesn't think of you in the same way you think of her...I'm sorry to say it, but it's best for you to let go... Launch. And take this as a lesson learned...don't be a girl's friend for 6 months...I've been there before...spent 3 months hanging out with a girl practically every weekend...then I asked her what the heck we were doing...she said she didn't know...and I said good day...
minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I think it's a part of your fault when it ended up like this. U didn't make it clear with her that you wanted to be her bf or just friend so...she found a guy who would do it...and there we go. So the best solution is to forget about her. And make sure u make things clear next time. Good luck.
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