minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Hey everyone! I got some issues with my gf....We argued about something few days ago and now my gf is tripping, she hasn't txted/called or msged since...i dont know why... The story was : Few days ago, i was talking to her on Ym and she was at work. She said she had to go out. I asked her where. She went out and said "with other dudes"...i was like "stop bull****ting around, where you going ?"...she didnt' say anything and then when she got back to her office. She tried to explain and i was like "Go away". And she was like " watch your language honey, i was jking." Yeah well then i apologized to her and she said ok... Ok so from what i just typed, it seemed not to be a problem but after that...I knew i was wrong and to make sure she didnt' have any hard feelings so i txted her to say sorry (again) and called her... she txted back and said its aight...and that evening i went to my class, and i got NO txts/calls from her ( she usually does that )... and when i came back home, she wasn't on Ym or tried to contact me either...i didn't even bother to contact her bcz - 1st i know i was wrong, and i apologized and she accepted. - 2nd its stupid, she gave me a stupid joke and she got mad at me ? Thats bull****... And its been 2 days since it happened (and like i said, i haven't talked to her or tried to contact her), she changed her facebook picture to some emo **** and posted some weird ass comments on her facebook.....wssp with that ? What ya'all guys/gals think ? I know i was wrong but i apologized and she accepted... if she wants me to contact her, thats so dam bull**** because...i think i wasn't wrong but i'm willing to listen to ya'all opinions. Thanks for your time Appreciated:)
Art_Critic Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 First off stop apologizing to her.. you have already made amends and admitted to her that you messed up, if you continue to say you are sorry then you just water down your apology and if she is expecting to hold this over your head then just let her go.. I would just wait a few days to see if she was just cooling her jets.. Sometimes after an argument some people need to pull away and coll;ect themselves.. If that is all she is doing then all is good just by giving her some space.. The other thing to consider is that she made those comments about going out with other guys in order to break up with you.. The only option you have at this point is give her some space and then contact her.. if she ditches you then you have your answer... Good Luck
2sunny Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 wait - she purposely created a scenario that most men would react negatively to you reacted accordingly she got mad that you reacted to a situation SHE created you apologized for reacting to HER drama? now SHE is still mad? YOU now want her back? what's wrong with this picture? oh ya, it's backwards... why would you even consider her? THAT is the real question here...
whichwayisup Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 You two are playing stupid games with one another. Do you like her? Respect her? Enjoy her company? Does she with you (same three questions). You both have an immature/dramatic dynamtic that need to stop otherwise all you're going to do is argument and have mistrust with one another. To always have to know what she's doing, where she's going.. ?? What's with that?
ADF Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 My opinion is you need a remedial writing class. I could barely follow a thing you said. Stop writing like you talk.
Author minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 @ Art: you got some strong points here. And i'm totally agree with what you are saying. I stopped saying sorry and stuffs. So do you think i should call or let her do it ? This crap has drained all my energy.... @ 2Sunny : No she actually got mad cz i say "Go away" well "get lost" actually. What you mean backwards ? @ Whichway : So u think i shouldn't ask her where she goes and what she's doing ? I asked bcz i noticed that she always goes out at a specific time when shes at work. Thats why
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Sounds like standard woman drama to me. Happens all the time.
Author minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 Uhm...kinda >.> so they all want us the man to say sorry to them in whatever situations...and maybe one apology aint enuf ? they want more than that ? >.>
boogieboy Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 They DONT want you to apologize. If you deliberately were teasing her by saying go away, then you dont ever apologize for it. Own it. But she is creating scenarios to make you act negatively to, so she has a reason to ignore you. She is not contacting you as much as she used to, she is making fake arguments, she says she is going to places with dudes, she WANTS you to break up with her. Shes too much of a coward to do it directly. Be prepared for her to break up with you. If you dont do it first like she wants, she will do it for you.
Author minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 boogieboy Ugh...so this really means it ? Should i talk to her or just stop contacting her ? Just the day before we were aight...we made out and do a lot of stuffs together and...just to think of it, it breaks my heart :|
Confusedguy81 Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I see this in alot of guys including myself. Stop apologizing. She did something to provoke you which appeared intentional so you had a right to be upset. Dont take her s***.
Author minniezz Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 So what should i do ? Break up ? Talk to her ? Ignore her or what ? Can anyone gimme a specific advice of wat to do pls ?
boogieboy Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 So what should i do ? Break up ? Talk to her ? Ignore her or what ? Can anyone gimme a specific advice of wat to do pls ? Dont do anything. make yourself less available to her. Act like youre too busy. She has to think she will lose you now. SInce she doesnt want to communicate, this is the way you have to go. Dont answer every one of her calls. And dont let her bait you into apologizing again. Shes playing games, and its a test. You have to act like nothing phases you.
txsilkysmoothe Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I think you have apologized plenty and it sounds like she is trying to teach you a lesson. That's not nice. But is "go away" the only thing you said? Why would she tell you to watch your language over that???
Author minniezz Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 txsilkysmoothe I don't really get it, what is she trying to teach me ? To calm down and be sweet and stuffs all the time ? She did this 1st >.>
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 20, 2010 Posted March 20, 2010 Don't let that previous poster confuse you. The worst people to ask for advice about women are other women.
Author minniezz Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 Tnerforireyeh Yeah thx i called her and everything is aight. She said it was bcz i shouted at her and couldn't control my temper so she was sad and stuffs. Its kinda stupid tho but w/e we are kool now
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