oxfordsocks Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 MM's spouse found a text a while back and she threatened to call the number as he initially said it wasnt me--so she said if you don't tell me I will call the number. I guess since i seem to want to know everything about her--i am wondering if she is doing the same or could't give a flying hoot--I guess if my husband had told me of an affair--then said it was over--if i found a subsequent text 3 months later i think i might be calling. He sent a text that morning to say that she found the text and had my number -i guess to warn me if she called. the text said only--BIg Yawn X (as he had send a text to wake me up and that was my response back)
califnan Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 If I were married and found a text from OW, I would question my husband, and hope he would tell me the truth .. If the OW eventually wound up with my husband, I would feel that he got what he deserved.. Probably, it would be a good idea to not continue looking through the window into someone else's marriage.. it only causes hurt for all ..
fooled once Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I thought he was ending his marriage to be with you? I thought you two had all these plans? Guess he has convinced his wife that you aren't that important to him. I think it bothers you that she hasn't contacted you -- because for you, that would be 100% confirmation that she knows and you could tell her how he loves you and is planning to be with you.... But since she hasn't contacted you...does that mean he has convinced her that there is nothing going on? And why would he do that when he told you he was leaving for you?
dreamingoftigers Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I would call. I don't trust any single one of them
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I would wager she knows more about you than you think at this point. As for him, if he is leaving anyway why doesn't he just tell her the truth and use that as a jumping off point?
Snowflower Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 MM's spouse found a text a while back and she threatened to call the number as he initially said it wasnt me--so she said if you don't tell me I will call the number. I guess since i seem to want to know everything about her--i am wondering if she is doing the same or could't give a flying hoot--I guess if my husband had told me of an affair--then said it was over--if i found a subsequent text 3 months later i think i might be calling. He sent a text that morning to say that she found the text and had my number -i guess to warn me if she called. the text said only--BIg Yawn X (as he had send a text to wake me up and that was my response back) Okay, so MM said his W has your phone number. Are you concerned that she is going to try to contact you? I agree with the other poster who said it isn't a good idea to try to look into their marriage. What purpose does that serve? Are you trying to figure out if she is going to leave her H? But to answer your question in the title of the thread, as a BS, when I found all the phone calls/texts my H had made to the same number, as shown on the cellphone bill, you bet I called that number!
BlueeyedJonesy Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Are they divorcing? if so she could be digging info up on you to take to court..Here in the states you have to have proof. Physical proof. And when you mess with a MP people tend to go sherlock homes on you.
OWoman Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 If you found a text from another woman would you call the number No. I don't snoop on my H's phone, but if I did happen to come across it - say, when he asked me to text someone from his phone while he's cooking - I would simply ask him about it if something about it bothered me.
1Angel Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 I'd research the # first, not call it. ring ring "Hello, are you OW?" "Of course not! who the h*ll are you, calling me?" "Oh so sorry to have bothered you. I must have been seeing things when I saw this text on WS phone."
NoIDidn't Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 It is entirely possible that the MM is lying about what happened and is just planning to dump the OP. Its also possible, if the text came from an international number, that he said it was likely a wrong number and that he had no idea of where it came from. Either way, were I the W, I would just document the number until I saw it come up again. Can't go around just calling arbitrary numbers until they prove to not be so arbitrary.
OWoman Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 Can't go around just calling arbitrary numbers until they prove to not be so arbitrary. especially international calls which are pretty costly...
2sure Posted March 23, 2010 Posted March 23, 2010 It is so cheap and easy to find out the ID on a phone #, she probably already knows who it belongs to. Especially since she knows her husband is a liar. If she has no questions, she wont call.
NoIDidn't Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 especially international calls which are pretty costly... ................
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