Abril Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 my boyfriend and i had a beautiful relation we was in a LDR but when we saw each other we was happy y and dont stop hugging and kissisng last time we meet we went to a bar and after few beers we was talking and he start crying and told me he never loved someone as he love me, and i saved him becuase after his divorce he feel he never gonna find the love again, aftere 2 months he dumped me his reasons was stress from his work and his studies, and he feel pushed by the relation with me, but he want we remain as friends from now last time he told me many things can change between us after he finish his studies in may, and he dont want me out of his life. is there a chance to come back?
Author Abril Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 for a year but he ask for a break after we meet for last time
mella Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 when did you meet for the last time> have you communicated since then? if so, what did he say?
Author Abril Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 last time we talked was on monday he said after he finish his postgrade many things can change between us, and the he gonna have clear mind and he dont want take me out of his life
mella Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 He is asking you to wait for him to finish school so he can focus on his studies right now. Is that something you are willing to do? It sounds like there is a chance to come back together if he is being truthful about the reason he broke it off in the first place, and if you are willing to deal with the hurt of being put on the back burner for schoolwork. Lots of people go to school and maintain relationships at the same time, it sounds like a pretty lame excuse to me to break off what was already a low maintenance LDR. You've posted about this situation again and again, you've gotten lots of advice, so I ask you - what do YOU want to see happen? Most people are going to, or already have advised you to go no contact with him so you can detach yourself from this ongoing strife and focus on yourself. You obviously don't see the logic in that, since you just spoke with him on Monday. You are holding onto the crumbs he is throwing your way to keep you hanging on. So, I say hang on til May and see what happens, might as well if you aren't going to actually heed any of the advice you've been given over the past few months. I hope it all turns out the way you want it to. Best wishes...
Author Abril Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 thanks for your advice, really he is making me nuts becuase well he suddenly change ii can say from one day to another so i decide since monday will not tak to him again when he finish and if he want talk he know where to find me im tired from the situation i cant carry on my shoulders anymore so will wait and when oi have a respose woill tlell you
ADF Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Time for a reality check. 1) I would bet almost any amount of money that your LDR boyfriend broke up with you because he met someone else. Someone closer to home. 2) When a man breaks up with you but says he still wants you in his life, it means this: "I don't want to have to commit to you in any way, but I still want you to be available for sex now and then."
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