SarahRose Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I have posted on here before about my low sex marriage. Here is an update. I took a trip for 5 days and got home early in the day but he was at work and then he comes home from work and he just grabs me and starts kissing me and hugging me and he says let's do it. I really wasn't expecting that at all. So then he does this 2 more times that evening so we had sex 3 times! I don't know what to make of this? Should I go away more often? I am wondering if his problem is taking me for granted boredom issue?
Luv2dance Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Wow...not sure what to make of it, but YAY for you!! Maybe he did actual want you b/c he couldn't have you ALL the time.
cuppa Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I have posted on here before about my low sex marriage. Here is an update. I took a trip for 5 days and got home early in the day but he was at work and then he comes home from work and he just grabs me and starts kissing me and hugging me and he says let's do it. I really wasn't expecting that at all. So then he does this 2 more times that evening so we had sex 3 times! I don't know what to make of this? Should I go away more often? I am wondering if his problem is taking me for granted boredom issue? Wow.....I'm not sure what his problem is but good for you!!!!! I'm so jealous but very happy for you!
Toodamnpragmatic Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I have posted on here before about my low sex marriage. Here is an update. I took a trip for 5 days and got home early in the day but he was at work and then he comes home from work and he just grabs me and starts kissing me and hugging me and he says let's do it. I really wasn't expecting that at all. So then he does this 2 more times that evening so we had sex 3 times! I don't know what to make of this? Should I go away more often? I am wondering if his problem is taking me for granted boredom issue? Who has the sex problem???? If you have a low sex drive, was it re-ignited being away? Or is he the one with the low sex drive and missed you. In any case 3X's..... Good for you.
Jeff1962 Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I have posted on here before about my low sex marriage. Here is an update. I took a trip for 5 days and got home early in the day but he was at work and then he comes home from work and he just grabs me and starts kissing me and hugging me and he says let's do it. I really wasn't expecting that at all. So then he does this 2 more times that evening so we had sex 3 times! I don't know what to make of this? Should I go away more often? I am wondering if his problem is taking me for granted boredom issue? His problem was that he missed you and wanted to bang your brains out.
Author SarahRose Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 He is the one with the low sex drive. Anyone have any idea why he was so interested?
linwood Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Well, if I wasn`t taking care of my wife`s needs and she left town for a couple of days I might see how I could be inviting problems in my relationship. He might have had a few thoughts about exactly what you were doing out of town. Not that he thinks you are cheating or anything but the situation might have shown him that it`s a possibility. I know I`d be worried if my wife was out of town for a few days and she wasn`t happy with our sex life. I`d want to show her I could give her what she needed. Just my opinion
Toodamnpragmatic Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Well, if I wasn`t taking care of my wife`s needs and she left town for a couple of days I might see how I could be inviting problems in my relationship. He might have had a few thoughts about exactly what you were doing out of town. Not that he thinks you are cheating or anything but the situation might have shown him that it`s a possibility. I know I`d be worried if my wife was out of town for a few days and she wasn`t happy with our sex life. I`d want to show her I could give her what she needed. Just my opinion A man who does not want to have sex, going from 0 to 200 mph is highly unusual..... Don't be surprised if he is not put back in the garage until your next trip....
linwood Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 A man who does not want to have sex, going from 0 to 200 mph is highly unusual..... Don't be surprised if he is not put back in the garage until your next trip.... Yes, you`re exactly right. Even if my idea is correct it doesn`t mean he won`t just revert back to the same old grind again. Try to keep this interest moving if you can.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Yes, you`re exactly right. Even if my idea is correct it doesn`t mean he won`t just revert back to the same old grind again. Try to keep this interest moving if you can. Which more and more I think is the case..... Why do you think affairs are so exciting???? I expect him to go back to his old ways. Shall I guess the Op, seldom goes out for a night with the girls, coming home a little tipsy, telling him she went to a bar with the girls and danced. Bet that would wake him up everytime.......
Author SarahRose Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 Ok so he comes to bed about 1am and wakes me up for more sex! Yipeeee! Maybe I should go out of town more often? I am worried he will go back to his old ways which is why I am trying to figure out what triggered this and how to keep it going.
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Perhaps he read all of your posts here at Loveshack while you were away? You need to communicate to him how wonderful he is making you feel and understand his motivation.... I am sure with communication it can only get better...
giotto Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Ok so he comes to bed about 1am and wakes me up for more sex! Yipeeee! can you tell my wife? lol
Stung Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I don't know what's behind the change-of-heart/pants/routine, Sarah, but--get it while the gettin's good! Bow chicka bow wow!
Woggle Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Make sure you give him positive reinforcement if he keeps it up. If he sees that making a change gets him somewhere then he will be more motivated to contrinue it.
Author SarahRose Posted March 20, 2010 Author Posted March 20, 2010 I just can't contain my excitement!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is great great great!!!!!!!!! About 7am I am woken up with delicious passionate kisses and more sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am telling him how great it is as he has brought up doing it and I make sure to complement him on the sex and his manhood etc... I am loving it!!!!!!!!!!!! I am going to cook him lots and lots of special meals.
Holding-On Posted March 24, 2010 Posted March 24, 2010 (edited) Well, it is only pseudo-science, but it is a fun read with a lot of neat ideas, so you could read "Sperm Wars". Apparently it is quite a common biological drive for a man to want to reinsert his sperm into his mate to ensure that his fighter sperm/blocker sperm are topped up again. If you are usually a homebody perhaps he just doesn't get the unconscious signal that he needs to protect his turf as it were. In short... make random short trips away from home a monthly goal! Anyways, I am happy for you. Perhaps he simply went to the doctor and secretly got Viagra? Who cares! Edited March 24, 2010 by Holding-On
Author SarahRose Posted April 3, 2010 Author Posted April 3, 2010 Here is another update. He hasn't reverted back to his old ways. You know, before I always felt he was on the fence about our relationship. I always had that feeling but with his actions, I feel he is really investing himself in the marriage now. I do think it had to do with me being gone the few days. He had a chance to miss me.
Author SarahRose Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 ...is he taking any drugs? I'm serious..... No, of course not.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Unless some huge dynamic has changed. Add to that your complaints in other posts has me wondering what is going on..... To get this straight.... You were getting no/little sex and then all of a sudden you come back from a trip and he has sex with you multiple times in one night and has kept it up for 2 weeks...... Is this now daily or 2-3X's/wk the last couple of weeks. I need to get my head around this concept because something is completely out of whack.....
giotto Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I said this before... maybe he is doing this out of guilt? Maybe he's had/having an affair? Even an EA? It is indeed very strange he just changed his mind in this fashion... but maybe we should just be happy for you... (spraying cats aside... ) G
Author SarahRose Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 I said this before... maybe he is doing this out of guilt? Maybe he's had/having an affair? Even an EA? It is indeed very strange he just changed his mind in this fashion... but maybe we should just be happy for you... (spraying cats aside... ) G Maybe he just knocked off all the wanking to porn and turned his sex drive towards his wife, me. Maybe he just didn't realize how much he missed me until I was gone. Anyway, I tried to initiate this morning and got knocked back. First time I tried to initiate in over a month so who knows. Maybe the good times are over.
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