So is this a no-go guys, or is he worth hanging around for?

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Hey lovely people! I'm new to this forum, and going through a nice tricky situation at the moment, so some advice would be amazing and much appreciated.

 

I'm a freshman at university and I met a really funny, fascinating sophomore guy before Christmas through the Christian Union. He's one of those typical seems-confident-on-the-outside, joker types, although in a personal conversation he once confessed that actually this is just a cover-up for the fact he's not all that confident.

 

Anyway, when I met this guy, I remember he made me laugh, a LOT, and there was something about him which really left an impression on me. Since then, we've been getting to know each other, and I've been getting some really positive vibes. He's very jokey with me - although granted, he is with most people - except he tends to be very flirty also. For example, he'll always make a lot of intense eye contact with me when we're talking, he's always touching me in subtle ways like touching my arm when we talk, or ruffling my hair affectionately. He's hinted in conversation that he might have feelings for me - back in January, he asked me over IM if I was looking for anything, and then proceeded to ask me what my type was.

 

So things were looking promising, except here's the issue: he's not ready/looking for a relationship right now. He's confessed to a mutual friend that he feels that he's still too immature to get involved with anyone, and also recently he's taken on a role of authority within the Christian Union that he feels will use up a lot of time. Apparently, he's unsure of how much time he'll ultimately be able to give to a girlfriend at the moment, so he's holding off for now.

 

Obviously, this isn't the end of the world! But naturally I was disappointed after feeling recently that things might be moving closer towards a relationship. I completely understand his perspective, and I respect his decisions. However, my question is, is it worth waiting around for this guy, or should I wait for a guy who will want to be with me whatever the circumstances? Surely if a guy likes you enough, he would see past these things and at least give the relationship a shot ... or would any guys out there agree and hold off?

 

Any feedback would be so, so appreciated!

 

Thanks guys x

[SarahRose]

Good grief girl, you're a freshman! You should be dating lots and lots of guys and living it up not tying yourself down to one relationship that won't last anyway.