threebyfate Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 (edited) You're welcome, Dusty. "Proof" relationships aren't healthy. They turn into power struggle relationships, where the bar moves around erratically. This doesn't create a basis for a loving, trusting and respectful relationship. When you're ready which means learning to address your trust issues, as well as finding the right partner who you "get" and who "gets" you, you'll find that acceptance of each other will happen on an instinctual level, as long as you're ready for the obligation portion that's natural in all viable relationships. Also, give yourself some time to get over a relationship with a borderliner. She created some bad reactions with her drama and now, you're mistrusting people due to her violence of extreme emotions. Edited March 18, 2010 by threebyfate
OnlyJake Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Why does it always work out that when women (and i'm sure SOME men) say that they, "Are not looking for Drama", they always turn out to be the ones creating it? Where are you going? What are you doing? How come you didn't respond to my text? You said that was next saturday? and the list goes on..... Please man in the sky, I just want one normal one please?!?! Sorry if this already came up in your thread....but how is this creating drama? Sounds to me like a girl who is interested in what you're up to, because she likes you and is interested in getting to know more about you (and incidentally the answers to these questions affects when SHE gets to spend time with you).... And also someone who likes consistency from a guy, in regards to his (show of) interest...this could have something to do with managing expectations.
Ms. Joolie Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I don't think nagging causes drama... but here's drama. I date this girl for about three weeks, in those three weeks, I got the same questions. After the questions came "You're not into me." "You don't desire me." WTF. Then came "You used me." (We hadn't slept together... so wtf?) "You're an ass. I want more then 1-2 dates a week." (We never spoke of exclusivity.) Then, when I cut it off, she would drive by my house etc. CRAZY. What I meant was those questions seem provoking to me. And then to be followed by all the above nonsense? yuk. People just live in the same negative cycles over and over again. It's a habit to repeat the same unproductive things, or a default. We can create so much more than bad drama. We can actually choose to be positive and proactive in our relationships. How about that. Marvelous, isn't it? It's the biggest thing I'm realizing these days.
16thstreet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 She was doing just fine until these questions have started to come up a lot more. I have tried, really tried to open myself up. Maybe you could ask her, in a non-dramatic manner, why these questions are popping up so much lately?
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